david1 Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating?
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 What is it about her that makes you willing to put your relationship at risk like that? As an artist myself I don't see nude photography itself as cheating, HOWEVER... If you hid it from your SO, and did not make her a part of it (ie: she gets to come along for the shoot) then yes - it is cheating.
utterer of lies Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating? Not the picture taking, but what will inevitably follow.
norajane Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Ask your girlfriend how she feels about it. Hers is the only opinion that will really matter to your relationship.
Lizzie60 Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating? this is not cheating UNLESS you're a professional photographer.. and your partner knows about your new 'profession'.
utterer of lies Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 this is not cheating UNLESS you're a professional photographer.. and your partner knows about your new 'profession'. Haha. Too bad he posted this in the infidelity board and not the job & business one...
seibert253 Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating? Ask her husband. There's your answer.
Lizzie60 Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 But I have to admit that it's a clever way to cheat.. he just discovered a new passion 'the nude photography'... what can she say!!!
hilljilly Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 i have a friend whose husband actually did this. he had this backpack that he took with him if he left the house and he also took it to and from work with him, he basically always had this backpack with him - well one night when he was sleeping my friend decided to see what was in the backpack. among his nerdy star wars stuff and comic books there was a photo album FULL of pics of various topless girls, some of them were his co workers, some were their neighbors, some were girls she was supposed to be friends with, it was craziness! he of course didn't feel he was cheating. she stayed with him. i was and am at a loss as far as giving any advice goes, just wanted to let you know that you aren't the first guy in the world to come up with this clever little plan, lol!
Lizzie60 Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 i have a friend whose husband actually did this. he had this backpack that he took with him if he left the house and he also took it to and from work with him, he basically always had this backpack with him - well one night when he was sleeping my friend decided to see what was in the backpack. among his nerdy star wars stuff and comic books there was a photo album FULL of pics of various topless girls, some of them were his co workers, some were their neighbors, some were girls she was supposed to be friends with, it was craziness! he of course didn't feel he was cheating. she stayed with him. i was and am at a loss as far as giving any advice goes, just wanted to let you know that you aren't the first guy in the world to come up with this clever little plan, lol! We have to admit that it's cute though..
samsungxoxo Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I don't know, unless it's your job you're referring to then it's not cheating but if you're hiding this from your girlfriend then you're already filling a relationship base on lies. If you want to know if that's cheating go ask your girlfriend and see what she has to say.
utterer of lies Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 among his nerdy star wars stuff and comic books there was a photo album FULL of pics of various topless girls, some of them were his co workers, some were their neighbors, some were girls she was supposed to be friends with, it was craziness! And what good friends they were, showing him their boobs. Remind me that I should talk to some of my neighbors and coworkers about this
2.50 a gallon Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Nude photography, it worked for me in my bachelor days. I converted part of a second bedroom into a studio and kept a box of red wine in the frig. That and good music to get them in the mood. One of my best lines, "You will not always be young, get the photos now to enjoy years down the road" They provided the film, I took the shots and returned the film for them to develop. The word got around and I had them knocking on my door. It was always great for at least 3 dates, dinner to talk about what they wanted. The shoot. And usually a return date to view the results Bachelor days only
smarterthanbefore Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Ask your partner if she thinks this is cheating. Cheating to me is anything you do and would not want your partner to know about. If you would be upset if your partner had males come over and took pictures of thier penises, then why would you do that to her. If you would not be upset, then ask her if it is okay, as a matter of fact, see if she would like to do it with you. Golden rule, if you have to ask if it is cheating, then you already know that it is. But ask your partner if she thinks this is cheating. If you are to afaid to ask because you think she might be upset, or you know she will be upset, then you should not do this.
Athena Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating? Even if you just invited a female friend over for coffee and a chat every week WITHOUT your partner's knowledge, and made it your business to hide it from her, that secretive act is withholding relevant information from your wife/SO which is no good for a trusting relationship. You should always be open and honest with your wife about what you are up to, especially when it involves something 'shady' with a member of the opposite sex, her nude body parts, and you -- alone in your house, behind your W's back.... now what does that sound like to you? Do you think she would be upset if she happened to walk in on you doing this? And you had lied to her about where you were and what you were supposedly doing at that moment? Think. Cuz we certainly aint gonna help you lie & come up with a foolproof plan to con her! That's not the purpose of the Infidelity board, ha ha...
asireen Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating? How will you go about asking her? Please share the details. I want to do it too! Whether it is cheating? As long as you don't touch her in a sexual manner, it is not.
Athena Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 How will you go about asking her? Please share the details. I want to do it too! Whether it is cheating? As long as you don't touch her in a sexual manner, it is not. It may not be cheating, but it is still dishonest if you have to lie to cover up to your W where you will be, what you are doing -- even if you are lying by omitting the truth and not by an overt lie to cover up. Being dishonest is no good for your marriage. Plus, I don't think 'as long as you don't touch her in a sexual manner' covers everything that is not cheating... what about emotional affairs online where no touching in a sexual manner occurs... I am not saying you will be Cheating, but you Will be lying! And you know it. Which is why you came to post on the Infidelity board. And why you are trying to figure out how to 'get away' with something you know is shady.
JamesM Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Ask your girlfriend how she feels about it. Hers is the only opinion that will really matter to your relationship. Bingo. And if you are afraid to ask, then I am guessing that you know the answer. Or better yet, invite your GF to be in the room while you take the pictures. That should end any ideas of making it anything more than picture taking.
Trialbyfire Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating?I have this urge to invite a male friend over and have him pose nude while I take pics. Nothing but seeing him nude...just bottomless actually. Is that cheating?
CaliGuy Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I have this urge to invite a male friend over and have him pose nude while I take pics. Nothing but seeing him nude...just bottomless actually. Is that cheating? Ssssssh! Our secret, TBF!!!!
hoping2heal Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I have this urge to invite a male friend over and have him pose nude while I take pics. Nothing but seeing him nude...just bottomless actually. Is that cheating? I don't know, but I have this urge to invite a male over to pose in front of the garbage can. He can keep his clothes on, I just want to see him "shed" the bag of garbage. That may be cheating.
Trialbyfire Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Ssssssh! Our secret, TBF!!!! Sowie! I wasn't thinking. I don't know, but I have this urge to invite a male over to pose in front of the garbage can. He can keep his clothes on, I just want to see him "shed" the bag of garbage. That may be cheating. Hmmm...how about shirtless? You can watch the muscles rippling across his shoulders, while he heaves the bag of garbage!
hoping2heal Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Sowie! I wasn't thinking. Hmmm...how about shirtless? You can watch the muscles rippling across his shoulders, while he heaves the bag of garbage! I already have the only man I want to look at without his shirt on, but I'd never turn down a helping hand around the house
Dexter Morgan Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I have this urge to invite a female friend of mine over and have her pose nude while I take pics. No sex. Nothing but seeing her nude...just topless actually. Is that cheating? if you or she is committed, yes, I consider it cheating. If I'm in a committed relationship, my nude body is for her, meaning my SO, eyes only. ya, and you are going to have someone come over so you can take nude pics of them without sex:rolleyes: tell you what, if you have a gf/wife....tell her you want to do this and see what her reaction is....there is your answer. or if she has a bf/husband, tell him what you plan to do....there again, there will be your answer. Or what do you think their reactions will be?
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