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Well, keep this brief, I hate long posts.

 

We have been dating 8 months, great relationship, not even a fight yet, which is rare. Due to busy and opposite schedules our 2-4 dates a week have been cut down to 1 for a few hours. I brought it up a few times in a nice and polite manner, to which she agreed, we needed to fill that gap with more phone calls or just simply making more room for each other, she agreed. I opened my schedule, she didn't. I told her in a much more direct way that I wasn't gonna stick around if this was how it was gonna be, she agreed again. Its been a week, despite what she says her actions aren't showing a change. Now I realize people need a life away from a relationship, but this is ridiculous.

 

This weekend I have work and of course her family is having a huge bbq, to which she said i should stop by. I told her I might be able to bend my schedule, which I have done ALOT of because I have brought it up the last few times. So now I'm wondering if I'm making myself so available its back firing and she's just expecting it. So contemplating missing the huge event to go to work instead to see if it hits the change home a little more.

 

Any ideas if this is a good idea? any alternative ideas for the same effect? I'm trying to make this work because its the only issue thus far, but her failure to follow through is getting to me. I realize she may not have the time and maybe in her point of view she is making sacrifices that I don't know about... but I just don't see it

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You need to back off and let her do some bending. Keep busy and let her miss you to make time for you. If she never does, well you know where you stand.

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