Jax Star Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Hi everyone! I'm actually old here, but I lost the password and e-mail to my account because I haven't been on for years. I have a issue that's been bothering me for quite sometime now with my SO. Her friend and I got into a big disagreement about her children and now she doesn't want to have nothing to do with me. I've tried to call to apologize so that my SO doesn't feel like she's in the middle, but her friend doesn't want to answer my phone calls. She told my SO a few days later that she doesn't want to have nothing to do with me and has little respect for me. Now my SO is confused on what to do. With that said, I want to ask all of you this question. It has three answers. Your friend tells you that they will no longer respect nor acknowledge the existence of your mate because of a severe disagreement they had. What do you do? A) Discontinue your relationship with your friend if they will no longer acknowledge or respect your mate. B) Continue the relationship with your friend but expect your mate to cease the relationship with their friend if the similar situation arose. C) Mutual agree to continue the relationships your friends even if they ignore or disrespect your mate.
boogieboy Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Well you cant tell a woman about her own babies, some women hear one comment and cant get past it. LEave her be and eventually she might see that she over reacted. But you and your SO prolly cant hang with her friend at the same time.
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Compartmentalize the relationships until it blows over.
carhill Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Compartmentalize and proactively shut down any bitch sessions by friend about mate. This balances. If friend does not accede, end friendship. The friend does not support your relationship, which is an element of friendship, IMO.
Author Jax Star Posted July 25, 2009 Author Posted July 25, 2009 Well you cant tell a woman about her own babies, some women hear one comment and cant get past it. LEave her be and eventually she might see that she over reacted. But you and your SO prolly cant hang with her friend at the same time. Compartmentalize the relationships until it blows over. So you're saying it's okay for her now to disrespect me in front of my SO and she should accept it until she comes around. She has badmouthed me a number of times one on one with my SO for the past 3 1/2 weeks. I'm surprised to hear that if someone disrespects your mate and doesn't acknowledge their existence with a "Hi" or "Bye", it's acceptable. She wants to continue the relationship with her friend but expects me to stop communication with my friends if they ignore or disrespect her. Since she will not stand up for me, I myself feel we both should mutual agree to continue the relationships with our friends even if they ignore or disrespect our mate.
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