Bmadis0n Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 My girlfriend and bestfriend of 2 years told me she doesnt feel the same anymore and broke up with me almost 4 weeks ago(Right after we graduated highschool and 2 weeks until our 2 year anniversary.). She told me she loves me but does not feel in love and still wants me to be her bestfriend and really wants me in her life. She told me she cannot explain why she feels this way but it really hurts her. We are very, very close and our families even spend thanksgiving together camping. We were very close friends growing up and when we were sophomores we started to be with each other. We were completely in love and have tons of memories together. I'm her best friend and she also has a couple other close friends. It feels as if a part of me is missing. Being so young and having so many memories with someone and being with them everyday for so long...it just hurts. Things started to go sour just a few months ago after being sick of being together because we are together 24/7 and she barely spends time with friends. We started to become a little more distant from her eachother but still hangout everyday and we started to act more like friends because I wasnt just her boyfriend...but her "girlfriend" as well you can say because she was with me more than any of her friends. After she broke up with me I freaked out and kind of pleaded to make things work and she told me to move on and don't wait for her and if its meant to be we will be together in the future. It has really hurt her especially to see me hurting so bad. She told me she doesn't feel like boyfriend and girlfriend anymore and finally has time to herself. That week I came over 3 times and talked to her she was a complete wreck crying and had not eaten but told me she didn't know when I asked her if we were done for good, but the next week said she thinks she is done. A week later she texted me asking how I was. I asked her out twice since and she said she was busy because she works long days (8 in the morning til 8 at night) but has not tried to contact me. She hasnt talked to me for 2 weeks. I then heard from a mutual friend she has been hanging out with another guy I just think moving on would be the best bet. I have been working on myself since the breakup (which happened 4 weeks ago) and I'm starting to look better and feel a little better each day. But I still really miss everything about her and do not want to let her go. Honestly, what are the chances she will return? I think it is high because of how close we are and how i know her better than anyone else...and eventually she will miss this and come back because 2 years is so long.... My girlfriend and bestfriend of 2 years told me she doesnt feel the same anymore and broke up with me almost 4 weeks ago(Right after we graduated highschool and 2 weeks until our 2 year anniversary.). She told me she loves me but does not feel in love and still wants me to be her bestfriend and really wants me in her life. She told me she cannot explain why she feels this way but it really hurts her. We are very, very close and our families even spend thanksgiving together camping. We were very close friends growing up and when we were sophomores we started to be with each other. We were completely in love and have tons of memories together. I'm her best friend and she also has a couple other close friends. It feels as if a part of me is missing. Being so young and having so many memories with someone and being with them everyday for so long...it just hurts. Things started to go sour just a few months ago after being sick of being together because we are together 24/7 and she barely spends time with friends. I started to become more distant from her and we started to act more like friends because I wasnt just her boyfriends...but her "girlfriend" as well you can say because she was with me more than any of her friends. After she broke up with me I freaked out and kind of pleaded to make things work and she told me to move on and don't wait for her and if its meant to be we will be together in the future. It has really hurt her especially to see me hurting so bad. She told me she doesn't feel like boyfriend and girlfriend anymore and finally has time to herself. That week I came over 3 times and talked to her she was a complete wreck crying and had not eaten but told me she didn't know when I asked her if we were done for good, but the next week said she thinks she is done. A week later she texted me asking how I was. I asked her out twice since and she said she was busy because she works long days (8 in the morning til 8 at night) but has not tried to contact me. She hasnt talked to me for 2 weeks. I then heard from a mutual friend she has been hanging out with another guy Her friends are very close to me as well and they said that she still has like 40 pictures of me in her room...and that she still wears the ear rings I gave her for Christmas. I just think moving on would be the best bet. I have been working on myself since the breakup (which happened 4 weeks ago) and I'm starting to look better and feel a little better each day. But I still really miss everything about her and do not want to let her go. Honestly, what are the chances she will return? I think it is high because of how close we are and how i know her better than anyone else...and eventually she will miss this and come back because 2 years is so long.... We have very close mutual friends since we have all grown up together. And they told me some things tonight when we spoke. They said she has every single picture up in her room...my hat on her dresser....notes i wrote to her...my jewelry to her.....everything has not moved at all. They try and ask her about things and she will not answer. They said they dont know whats going on in her mind she will just change the subject or not answer. When they talk about me she just acts like everything is cool and she does not say anything?? What is going on here? Advices, opinions, personal stories, whatever is greatly appreciated -Brandon
Thomas X Forever Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Well, firstly, you posted the same paragraphs twice. Lol Secondly, I feel the hell you do. What a mess, full of pain, isn't it? It's like acid, seeping through the veins your blood used to. It's like cancer, eating you away. The memories are like loose shards of glass in your skull. The pain can't be measured. Tonight, for the first time in a year and a half, I broke down and really cried. Screamed, asked questions out loud through tears that will never get answered. What is so bad about us, all of us here, that we were broken up with? Do they not believe we are worth a second chance..? Do they not see what we see in ourselves? Where are their hearts, and why weren't we worth the fight? I don't want to commit suicide, but that doesn't mean I'm glad I was born. That's what these times show me.
moo Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 my ex put over 100% into almost everything he did...not me though. People are not willing to do the work. They want something that is super easy...I think that usually means sex with no strong emotional bond, at least that was my ex seems to want. He once said we were cursed. It's so funny, he was the one with all the emerging problems in his life, but he said WE were cursed. My ex is VERY impulsive, reckless, and of course, selfish. One time the police stopped him for speeding. He had his 9 year old son in the car. Where were they going? Home, which was only 15 minutes away. He said he had to get his son home in a hurry so that his son could go to a get together in the morning. I think it was a birthday party. Where my ex used to live were deer, yet he was speeding. His nine year old kid went to bed at 11 o'clock some nights every week over the summer so that the two of them could go to minor basebase games and his son has mild autism. He knows how important schedules are with his son. His son was just going to bed all kind of hours, nothing steady. He talks to his son like his son is his secretary and that he is annoyed with him...no gentleness. Then he kept saying things to imply that he was a WONDERFUL father.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 First, a wave of masochists. But lately, there has been a wave of people dating narcissists. You, moo, are one of them. Lorilynn was the other that comes to mind. Impulsiveness, selfishness, lack of empathy, and boasting. A recipe that simply creates narcissism.
moo Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Yes. I have told my ex before that he was narcissitic. But he rationalizes all his bad behavior and plays the victim. There's no getting through to him.
Author Bmadis0n Posted July 25, 2009 Author Posted July 25, 2009 "We have very close mutual friends since we have all grown up together. And they told me some things tonight when we spoke. They said she has every single picture up in her room...my hat on her dresser....notes i wrote to her...my jewelry to her.....everything has not moved at all. They try and ask her about things and she will not answer. They said they dont know whats going on in her mind she will just change the subject or not answer. When they talk about me she just acts like everything is cool and she does not say anything??" What do you guys think this means??
Author Bmadis0n Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 "We have very close mutual friends since we have all grown up together. And they told me some things tonight when we spoke. They said she has every single picture up in her room...my hat on her dresser....notes i wrote to her...my jewelry to her.....everything has not moved at all. They try and ask her about things and she will not answer. They said they dont know whats going on in her mind she will just change the subject or not answer. When they talk about me she just acts like everything is cool and she does not say anything??" What do you guys think this means?? Anyone know what she may think?
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