Boyfriend's mom is out of control...what do I do? How do I handle her?

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ok...I'll try to make this short...I have been w my boyfriend for 2 years now and we live together now...its been a year since we moved in and its been great...he is an only child and he used to live w her prior to...the problem is this woman who I do love and care for a great deal has some serious issues

 

My boyfriend certainly isn't a saint and we have been battling 3 court cases at the same time...the outcome could have been up to 10 years...but a great lawyer can do wonders and now its no jail time whatsoever just 5 years probation...of course thousands and thousands later

 

Anyhow after winning one battle she asked us to come over to celebrate...I did not want to go...I knew she was going to be drinking and would more than likely be nasty...but my BF insisted since she has helped him a great deal w lawyer fees it was the right thing to do so we went...we were just relaxing watching tv and Kendra was on on E! and I said I love her I think she's hysterical...something clicked in her brain God only knows how...she started insulting me screaming like a child about me not caring about religion and how horrible of a person I am because of it...that 2 people must be married before they have a child...and on and on and on about how disgusting and terrible that I don't care about the important things in life...she accused me of only spending time w her when I need something...I have never asked her for anything except strawberries one time cause i was having a hard time finding good ones by us...my BF doesn't speak to his dad( they are divorced) because he is very abusive verbally and emotionally and he abused him physically when he was a child...I have nothing to do w it and his decision...she called me selfish and self centered...she said I don't care about her and I never do anything for her...thats her own doing cause everytime I offer to help w anything she turns me down...like going to the dr, fixing her cell, buying the new tv errands all together...she shuts me down every single time.

 

My BF looked at me and got up went to his old bedroom picked up a ouple things he had there and we left...I didn't argue back I simply got up abd said i didn't come here to argue its time to go home...well that made her more furious...she screamed so loud the neighbours were outside...I felt like I was walking the walk of shame...I was embarassed...I cried for days...how could she do this to me? my BF wants me to not think about her or deal with her he says she's always going to be this way...she's too old to change nor does she see her alcohol problem...I want a relationship but I'm not going to take her crap anymore...so I wrote her a letter and I targeted every insult every point she made one by one...I wrote "if you are so religious yourself tthen you should know it is not your place to judge others based on their religious views that is God's place to decide" and that she doesn't need to agree or accept my beliefs and views but she does need to respect them like I respect hers...and then some more...I also asked her in the letter to please not call or write back if it will not be in good terms...I know by now she's gotten my letter and and I'm really wondering if its processing...I don't think I was rude I needed to defend myself I told her that the reason I left was because it was the right thing to do cause her temper tantrum was uncalled for and hurtful and I was not going to put myself at that level...blah blah blah

 

anyhow sorry its so long I really tried to minimized as much as possible...what do you guys think? suggest? where do I go from here?