jqb05443 Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 My ex broke up with me over 3 months ago. We were together for 3.5 years. After the break up we saw eachother a few times to which he admitted he had a great time and things were never better between us. Until I started pushing to get back together and he basically said we both needed to move on and he wished me luck. I was devasted. I text him if we could be friends and he ignored me. Five days after that last text where he ignored me I sent him a text asking him if he would be interested in seeing a Broadway show with me that I had tix for which he knew about 5 weeks from then. To my surprise he wrote back that he would go with me and we pretty much went NC for those 5 weeks until a week before the show I text him to make sure that he hadn't forgotten or if he changed his mind I could take someone else. He wrote back that he was def going. So after 5 weeks of anticipation (I have been a mess these 3 months)wanting to get back together and crying over him every day the day finally came last Saturday. We had a great time. Spent the whole day and night together. Went to show and dinner, walked around city, went back to his place got ices and movie. I ended up spending the night. We cuddled and it was just like old times. It was really nice. We were both flirting and had a great time. I went into the day thinking it would be the last time we would see eachother. But to my surprise he invited me to go to Atlantic City with him for 3 days next weekend. I was REALLY happy as I want to get back together. He booked tix for a show in AC while I was there and the hotel while I was there. When I left he gave me a kiss on the lips and told me he would call me. I was really hurt for the following 2 days because I never heard from him and I was thinking did he think it was a mistake, just all these what if's. But he did end up calling me on Wednesday and twice last night. He is going away for a bachelor party this weekend so I know I probably won't hear from him. I know I shouldn't be getting my hopes up but just curious from other people's experiences what they make of this situation. Do you think he might be intrested in getting back together? He will be spending 3 consective days away with me. Opinions appreciated..thank you
wow123 Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 It sounds good. Has he brought up the relationship at all? Did he book the room in AC and the show just for the two of you or are there other couples going? I would definitely go but be cautious until you know exactly what he wants. Don't ask him you have to wait for him to bring it up.
annxxdisaster Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Here's what I have personally found is the best way to handle a situation with an ex, or pretty much anyone in your life. Walk into it with no expectations. The more you try to think about the situation, what his motives may be, answering all these unanswered questions... the more unhappy you're going to be with the situation no matter how it turns out. No matter how elated you'll feel after the trip, if he doesn't call you or doesn't ask if you want to get back together in a few days... your europhoria is going to wear off and you're going to go back to answering all these what-if questions.
SCooke Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 I think this is a good sign. You should take it slow though. Like the others stay, keep your expectations in check and also make sure you don't come off like you're ready to just jump back in. Take your time, and good luck. I wish you the best.
Author jqb05443 Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 No we didn't speak of the relationship at all. He didn't bring anything up nor did I. The last time that I saw him prior to Saturday was about 6 weeks ago. I gave him a letter and card basically pouring my heart out and telling him how I have changed. He had told me that the reason why he was still hanging out with me and talking to me was because he wanted to see where things went. If the problems we had change. He said if he were meant to be he wanted it to happen on its own without it being forced. He said he wasn't saying no to getting back together but he needed to think about it. I kept pushing him for an answer that he finally said we both needed to move on. I never gave him time to miss me until the 6 weeks leading up to the show since the break up. Maybe he realized how much he missed me during that time. Maybe giving him those 6 weeks with NC and not seeing each other made him think. I don't know. You know how we are we over analyze everything. We are going alone to Atlantic City. Just the two of us. I can't help but thing to myself if he really wanted me out of his life would he be spending these 3 days with me? I don't know. So many what if and what are his intentions. Everyone has told me just take it easy as if we are dating again and don't push. Just go with it and have no expectations. I don't want to get my hopes up. So I am trying very hard to be cautious. Be the girl that he fell in love with. Not some moppy person who is crying in front of him and begging him to come back. Even though that's what I do when he is not around anyway because I miss him so much. But I know now I can't let him see that which I did when we were hanging out in the beginning.
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