I told him how I feel.

[Wings Of Love]

After deciding to follow the advice of a friend, I went ahead and admitted to my ex that I do still have strong feelings for him even after nearly 6 months apart. He has always been adamant that we remain friends, though we only ever talk through instant messenger. Usually he would start talking to me, we'd continue like that for a few hours with long periods of total silence and then I'd hear nothing from him for a few days, before it started all over again. However, since I admitted my feelings he has spoken to me every day, always being affectionate and friendly, trying to comfort me when I feel down. He comes to me when he's upset or worried about things, and he shares with me all the things that make him happy. I do the same.

 

Last night, out of boredom, we decided to switch on our webcams. A lot of the time he was joking around, pulling faces and trying to make me laugh. After a while we both calmed down a little and just watched each other. I know that sounds a little weird, but I never said we were normal people.

 

Anyway, I started a conversation with him first today, which I don't usually do, because my older sister has just gone into labour and he asked me to let him know when she did, because he still cares about her. After I told him I said I'd let him get back to whatever he was doing, but he said that he was quite happy to carry on talking to me. At one point he said he had enjoyed meeting up with me back in April, the only time we've seen each other since we broke up. I told him I'd enjoyed it too and suggested that we might do it again one day, to which he responded that he'd really like that. I was pretty surprised, considering he has a new girlfriend who is likely to get upset about it. He has gone quiet for the moment, but will occasionally send me a little smiley face for no reason.

 

The point of this thread is to ask if I made the right decision in telling him how I feel? And would it be a good idea to meet up with him and spend some time together, just as friends? I'd never allow anything to happen (even if I want it to) because I know I wouldn't want to be cheated on, and neither would his girlfriend. By no means do I like this girl, but that doesn't mean I'd do anything with him. That's just spiteful and petty. Opinions?

[Thomas X Forever]

This topic answers itself.

 

You don't want to do it to his gf, the end. And if he really wanted to be together anyway, you two would be. Because you've made it clear you want to be. He'd break up with his gf if he wanted to.

 

He's stringing you along like a little puppet, and being creepy about it too

[northstar1]

After deciding to follow the advice of a friend, I went ahead and admitted to my ex that I do still have strong feelings for him even after nearly 6 months apart. He has always been adamant that we remain friends, though we only ever talk through instant messenger. Usually he would start talking to me, we'd continue like that for a few hours with long periods of total silence and then I'd hear nothing from him for a few days, before it started all over again. However, since I admitted my feelings he has spoken to me every day, always being affectionate and friendly, trying to comfort me when I feel down. He comes to me when he's upset or worried about things, and he shares with me all the things that make him happy. I do the same.

 

Last night, out of boredom, we decided to switch on our webcams. A lot of the time he was joking around, pulling faces and trying to make me laugh. After a while we both calmed down a little and just watched each other. I know that sounds a little weird, but I never said we were normal people.

 

Anyway, I started a conversation with him first today, which I don't usually do, because my older sister has just gone into labour and he asked me to let him know when she did, because he still cares about her. After I told him I said I'd let him get back to whatever he was doing, but he said that he was quite happy to carry on talking to me. At one point he said he had enjoyed meeting up with me back in April, the only time we've seen each other since we broke up. I told him I'd enjoyed it too and suggested that we might do it again one day, to which he responded that he'd really like that. I was pretty surprised, considering he has a new girlfriend who is likely to get upset about it. He has gone quiet for the moment, but will occasionally send me a little smiley face for no reason.

 

The point of this thread is to ask if I made the right decision in telling him how I feel? And would it be a good idea to meet up with him and spend some time together, just as friends? I'd never allow anything to happen (even if I want it to) because I know I wouldn't want to be cheated on, and neither would his girlfriend. By no means do I like this girl, but that doesn't mean I'd do anything with him. That's just spiteful and petty. Opinions?

 

Hmmm. he has a new gf, and he is still flirting with you and spending time online/camming? Does that seem like a good thing?

 

The honest truth - he's keeping you around for his ego, while he dates a new girl, and probably enjoys the attention.

The whole 'messenger' thing is easy for him to do, requires little effort to keep you on the hook, and doesn't really leave much evidence for his gf to stumble on.

 

Even if the remote possibility occurs and you get back with him, think about the fact he may be 'camming' with another girl when you aren't around.

[lorilynne]

So let's see, at one time he was your boyfriend. Now he's someone else's and you'll settle for being the ex he sees on the side. You're not a side dish. Tell him no if he asks you out again and start NC now. If anything, just because it would drive him crazy if you did that out of the blue. Seems like he's used to just having you around.

[boogieboy]

You seeing him and finding reasons to be with him is not helping you heal, You really should not be talking to him, especially since you still want to be with him. Youre not over him yet, stop it.