Arcticle/book: Woman tracks down all her husband's mistresses after his sudden death

[81West]

Interesting article here:

 

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/family-and-relationships/mistress-explain-yourself/article1229176/

[pkn06002]

And how interesting to find out he had been diagnosed NPD by his therapist. That seems to be a theme with most cheaters.

 

Ah I would not say most that is painting with a very broad brush. If you believe the statistics then over half the population is NPD. Since what 60% of men admit they cheat and over 40% of woman. With both numbers increasing.

[bentnotbroken]

I don't know about most, but Mr. Messy was diagnosed and based on her actions before, during and after the A, so is ow. I do wonder if maybe NPD is a risk factor(and depression)for triggering destructive behavior.

[NoIDidn't]

I didn't find the article that interesting until she spoke about getting access to his therapist too.

 

That he was diagnosed with NPD was not surprising. The fact that he had six mistresses and was preying on vulnerable women gave that away. He wasn't having love affairs, he was feeding his fragile ego.

 

BUT...but, but, but.....the fact that he had NPD also said tons about his W. It takes a certain kind of person to be taken with an NPD predator. She talks about the OWs like they were the ones to be pitied. She was to be pitied too. Many people probably knew about his dalliances while she only found out after his death. His widow is likely very codependent to have put up with him for 16 years.

 

I dated a guy that had that many women. I was one of the *extras* in his life. I couldn't put my finger on it back then, but something wasn't right about him and I wasn't going to hang around trying to prove to him that I was that total package woman he felt entitled to. When I learned about NPD, it was like a veil lifted.

 

I don't think that psychologists diagnose NPD enough. The Boomer Generation and their free love and me! me! me! thinking created many of these types: neglected children that never mature emotionally beyond that needy state. Each following generation has already proven to be even worse.

[westernxer]

This hubby must have really gotten her juices flowing... now she's chasing his ghosts. LOL

[GorillaTheater]

I have a question over something I find confusing: if a person is truly a narcissist, wouldn't it be odd that they would seek therapy? Wouldn't that be an admission that there may, in fact, be something wrong with them?

[HsMomma]

I have a question over something I find confusing: if a person is truly a narcissist, wouldn't it be odd that they would seek therapy? Wouldn't that be an admission that there may, in fact, be something wrong with them?

 

Maybe not, GT - maybe instead they went for validation of their extraordinarily high opinion of themselves? I don't really know, but it makes a sorta warped kind of sense.