Road To Joy Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 After a breakup, is it normal to feel like you don't have a purpose? Like you're just living day to day for no reason? Or like the point is gone? 'Cause it depresses me. I don't want to feel like this forever.
brock9911 Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Yeah it deff feels that way. until you start finding joy in the the simple things and you have someone to take your mind off of the ex, u will have that feeling. when the girls i was kinda seeing after the break up, i was all smiles and didnt think of my ex. once she moved it was back to square 1. i would get those, whats the point, why even try to start over again, i will just end up in the same spot. and also why share all my thoughts and emotions when she can do the same as the ex. it all seems meaningless until ur over that person. im getting close to that point, but not quite there yet
Thaddeus Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Yes, it's normal. And it won't last forever. How long it lasts depends on how much you ruminate on it and what you do to fill the void in your life left behind by your ex. Take up a hobby. Learn a new language. Take a night class. Volunteer at your local food bank.
Sbrizio Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 i feel that way too. Same sensation of emptyness and futility, same lack of motivation... ...and damned incoming weekend, so much free time, weather is grey, and my friends are not there. Today's not good
Author Road To Joy Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 Thanks for the reassurance, everyone. Today is not the greatest day. And Sbrizio, I understand what you're going through. I've been there and I'll probably have a lot of those days left. Hopefully things will get lighter soon. Everything hurts.
redhighheels Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 It most definitely does. It's like going through withdrawal from an addiction..if I can't have this, what's the point of it all? It won't last forever, so don't despair. Just learn to see it as what it is, a temporary state of mind, and have faith that will pass. Because it will.
georgia girl Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I definitely felt/feel the same way. I kept saying to myself that I was a very happy person who had a full life before my ex. What happened that my whole life seemed to shrink to just this relationship? Very slowly, I think you come out of it. At first, it's almost against your will. You WANT to mourn and focus on this thing you've lost because you're still trying to figure out a way to get it back. Where I am now is that I am starting to look forward to other things again and I have less down days as a result. I'll be honest. As much as I want my ex back, I don't want him back right now because I think it would be the worst thing for me. I need to get over him first. Then, if we get back together, it will be on equal terms. Getting back together now would be a recipe for disaster. Thinking about that makes me realize that I truly have to focus on healing myself and enjoying my life.
Author Road To Joy Posted July 25, 2009 Author Posted July 25, 2009 I, actually, many times compared it to a drug addiction. I'm trying to keep my head up, though. This is so hard. And it is weird how it feels you had no life before the ex. I know I did, but it feels as if it was not much. Which is in a way, true. I was with my ex since I was 15, and when I was with her it's when I made more friends and came out of my shell (kind of), etc etc. I think it's 'cause we grew up together, in a way. A lot of things in my life blossomed when I was with her, major points and all. So, I guess it makes sense. But it still makes me sad.
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