adamt Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Split up with the ex 2 months ago. I've unfriended her on facebook. I'm organising a friends night out and after sending emails,text, facebook messages one of my friends hasnt responded. he usually responds quite quickly. So i looked on his facebook and noticed he isnt a friend with my ex anymore. I thought that was odd because she is still friends with some other mutual friends who she knows a lot less. I never asked him to take her off. So i contacted another friend and asked him to send the other friend an email. He got a response quite quick. I sent him another invite and got no reply. In the past he has always been quick to accept invites for night out. Now i'm trying not to let my imagination run wild but my thinking is it that they were chatting on facebook recently (in last week) and maybe he thought he had a chance with her. She is the sort who has a lot of male friends and is chatty. She knocked him back after he miss read the situation and one has unfriended the other and he is too embarrased to speak to me and is wondering if i have found out. Thats my gut feeling. My concern is not too contact my ex but to find out if my friend has been a bit disrespectful and if my thoughts are true. Obviously i dont want to jump to conclusions on this. How is the best way to approach him.
Road To Joy Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Well, from what I've learned, gut feelings are right 99% of the time. But... I don't think you should contact him if it has anything to do with your ex. Or if there's a chance it has anything to do with your ex. Anything, and I mean ANYTHING you find out will get your mind stirring. Even the simplest things. I don't understand why he's ignoring you, if nothing happened between the two of you, just seems like immaturity to me.
Crow9726 Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 My advice is a bit more basic. Instead of relying on Facebook and/or email...why don't you pick up the phone and call him? Invite him to the get together that way. Maybe you'll find the answer you seek since he isn't responding at this point.
Author adamt Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 Thanks for the advice. I think what i will do is wait until i see him next. Probably see him in 2 weeks. I'll just ask him if he fell out with her as he they arn't facebook friends.etc I probably need to know where i stand with him as i want to be able to trust my friends. If i dont see him by then i will know he is avoiding me. I will call him then. I dont think they will be getting together as she is probably out of his league. I can only think they were exchanging emails/private messages about general stuff and he thought it was more than that. I don't think he would unfriend her just to help me, i wouldnt want my friends to do that. I dont want to lose that friendship if i am totally wrong. Best sit it out for now.
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