New_life Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Hi, so my ex Has my work number unfurtunatly I can't change it and if I did she would get it since her dad is my boss. I already got a new email, eliminated her and her friends from facebook, changed my personal celphone number and told her I need to not contact her because it was painful and I wanted my life back. Like most of us her she insists on being my friend (we were both best friends for 4 years and dated for 3). Howver I told her no. Yesterdday she texted me song lyrics on her missing me and loving me, and called saying she did regret it but she didn't think of us together because she didn't wAnt me or her to get hurt. She says being distant with her current bf. Now also today at night she texts me saying good night kisses and wants to talk about her family problems with me since she is sad. I don't want to be cruel saying no, since I know she has beef but it pains me because I still love her and she doesn't want me back. Or could it be she wants me like a friend like before and take it slow to get together?? If not why say she loves me?? Yesterday she wanted to eat with me, I said no. She texted me and I was weak and asked her what happened with her problem she said I'll tell you tomorrow kisses. Soooo confused...
Thomas X Forever Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 My ex did the same, and when I asked her out on a date after being broken up for so many months, she broke down and started crying in my arms, in my car, saying she still loves me and she can't live without me. Then we kissed each other for a long time, and she kept crying the rest of the night, and every day after told me how much she loved me, and she wants to go on vacation this summer. Then she became wishy washy again out of nowhere. Don't waste your time. If she wanted to be together she'd say it out right. You're doing mental gymnastics.
CaliGuy Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 but she didn't think of us together because she didn't wAnt me or her to get hurt. She says being distant with her current bf. Based on what I have quoted above, she still sees you as a friend and is not respecting your boundary. I would ignore her and delete the texts. She has a boyfriend who, for whatever reason, is not meeting some of the emotional needs that you provided to her. When you set a boundary such as you have and she keeps crossing it, the next step is to block her texts/emails. If she calls at work you say "I'm sorry but this phone is for business related issues" and hang up. If you need to and feel OK with it, talk to her dad and tell him that you're trying to get your job done and she keeps calling you at work. The bottom line is that you need to be a man and tell her straight up "I do not want any contact from you whatsoever." That or find another job...
lorilynne Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 I agree totally with Calliguy & Thomas X. If she really wanted to get back with you, there would be not doubt about it. You wouldn't be looking for signs. She'd make sure that you knew. Could you start looking into a new job? This is what drives me crazy about exs...they think that since they dumped you, they can just come back whenever they want, even if it's just for a temporary fix!
Author New_life Posted July 25, 2009 Author Posted July 25, 2009 thNks for the answers everyone, Iam not getting my hpes up if anything I am once more pissed at her she always does this let's tAlk tomorrow, etc. Only for her to blow me off. So yesterday she didn't contact me which kinda worries me to think if she is alright with her problems, but I have maintIned strong not calling her. It seems evrrytime I go nc the third day she contacts. The work number is a celphone and not only that but I work at the airport so it's important to answer at all times. I could think about another job, however as a college student they're helping me out with times and great pay. I just feel helpless when she contacts me I think in my heart evrrytime she will ask me back, she tells me she loves me. And I know if that were the case she would try harder, but sometimes ifeel like when I go nc I am showing I don't care for her, so her being the selfcentered person she is is also giving up. I'm sorry if I wrote alot I prffer steAming off here. And Thomas was right the dreams are the worse!!!
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