bentnotbroken Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 We can agree to disagree. I don't think all OWs are trashy on the inside. I think she was talking about the way one carries herself in public and this perspective OW was surprised her MM, seemingly classy, would be seen with the lesser kind, be it casual, down-to-earth, or even trashy looking. But I so hate disagreeing with you. It makes me unhappy. I don't think all ow are trashy on the inside either. I think the one in my situation, and unfortunately, the OP have similar opinions of those who they view as competition. They tend to degrade that competition.
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I think y'all should start asking hard questions on whether it is right to be the other woman in the first place, knowing what it is this woman is doing is wrong. I bet her husband is real proud to have married such a gem! She's a keeper! lol. I mean if she thinks about it, she has the nerve to say the MM who she is interested in has some other Bimbo, and yet she wants to be with him, so what does that make her at the end of the day..? Kinda disgusting for her to put her dignity and self respect out there in the gutter.
norajane Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 We can agree to disagree. I don't think all OWs are trashy on the inside. I think she was talking about the way one carries herself in public and this perspective OW was surprised her MM, seemingly classy, would be seen with the lesser kind, be it casual, down-to-earth, or even trashy looking. Then she's a worse judge of character than she thinks. Because there is nothing classy about a MM telling a coworker that he's having an affair with another coworker from their office, particularly while wining and dining her. Hotchocolate, open your eyes! HE's the bimbo! And if you "just want to fall in love", then address your marriage first, get a divorce, and then fall in love with whomever you please...just stay away from the married men because you're wasting your love on them.
jj33 Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Much better. As I said in your other thread there may not be a Bambi - he may be testing you. And this man doesnt move mountains for anyone - he moves zippers.
Author Hotchocolate Posted July 26, 2009 Author Posted July 26, 2009 Yes, I get it, he's moving his own zippers:) And in my heart of hearts, believe he is overwhelmed by life, in a mid-life crisis (hello) and just wanting some fantasy play to escape the vice of life. Once I get my own house in order though, I do want the brass ring. Just sad it's gonna have to wait a long time.
Author Hotchocolate Posted July 26, 2009 Author Posted July 26, 2009 You're right. And believe it or not, I know all to easily how easy it is to be the MW at the other end. Jesus, I thought just plain dating was hard.
jj33 Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 HC its not supposed to be easy to "date when youre married. That is the whole point of marriage, no? When you are married dating is a no no. Its not suprising you are drawn to someone (him theres a question but someone) your marriage is a mess, you are looking for a way out, he is looking for an escape from his day to day, your fantasies of an easier happier relationship where there is hot sex and candellight every night collided. The timing was right, you were vulnerable so it seemed like it might be something to consider. But its not. Its just not a good way to go. Glad you saw that before it was too late because once these things start its like trying to stop a train wreck moments before the crash.
utterer of lies Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I'm jealous that he cheats on his wife with some other girl, when I do want to cheat on my husband with him! I'm so confused. I don't think there is any advice that might help you, right now. But don't worry, you'll be here again soon enough, after beginning the affair.
Author Hotchocolate Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 Utter -- why would you say that? You don't know me from Adam. Was you comment intended to be helpful or hurtful?
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Because you have a damned one track mind so intently focused on your affair and leaving your marriage you dont care about anything else. your posts give away your current mindset. It is not far enough to logically conclude you will sleep with this man and leave your husband for him. But you want to remain the victim in which you are the perpetrator. I mean we've seen it all before. Nothing surprises alot of posters here anymore. Just look at all these OW posts here, it dont seem similar to you, all script to you. Oh he's not having sex with his wife, oh he says he love me, oh he says im the best in bed, she treats him like crap, we'll be together once he can leave his wife, She doesnt know him like I do, he's misrable and I make him smile like no one else, dont worry just because he's doing this to her dont mean he'll do it to me. C'mon HC. give it a break, why dont you divorce your husband, already and leap into the new man's arms and sees if he catches you. That's what you want right. inevitably it'll either sink or swim. why be around the bush about it? just do it already.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 oh, and she is in an emotional affair behind her husband's back and WANTS to cheat on her husband, but she is calling this other woman of her other man a "bimbo"? uh......ok:confused:
utterer of lies Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Utter -- why would you say that? You don't know me from Adam. Was you comment intended to be helpful or hurtful? Obviously, it was intended to be helpful. I was just referring to the fact that you (as others noticed already) seem really intent on cheating on your husband with that guy, and that you are more upset about your own jealousy towards this other girl than the cheating itself. While I don't think extra-marital sex is bad in itself, cheating is. This means that when it's done without the consent of the partner, it does become a bad thing, because of the betrayal, the broken trust. You do not seem concerned about that at all, and I don't get the impression that you are planning to ask for the consent of his as well as your partner. So, yes, I do not know you, but reading the thread again, the impression you gave above fully justifies my comment.
2sure Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 He is a practiced predator. He knows you are vulnerable, so he is setting you up. Just like he did Bambi. Dont bother thinking about it too hard and feeling like how could he be attracted to both her type and yourself. When my H cheated on me, the only requirement was that she be vulnerable and willing.
stuckinoz Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 AGAIN...........Since there was no answer before - Where Is The WE in this. Your title says.......WE WANT EACH OTHER............ Where have you posted that HE wants you as badly as you want him? Where does the WE come into play? Could this just be a silly game you are playing in your own mind? and.........aren't you married? - Is he married:o
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