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Hi all its the weekend again and i find this is the hardest time of the week even though i go out with my friends regular. I've maintained NC for almost 2 months now since the break up(she got in touch with me a few times, and i told her i did'nt want contact)and i thought i was doing well.

 

I met a friend of hers by chance and found out she is now dating and seeing a guy that was always hanging around her near the end of the relationship. Now i'm not naive enough to think there was nothing going on between them at the time but i did'nt need to hear that and i should'nt of asked her friend was she seeing anybody.

 

Its completely got me down and now when i think of them together. I d'ont like this guy either. He's arrogant rude and so serious. Anybody but him. She knows him about 2 years and the live quite close. He'd be nice to my face but she told me he'd speak negative of me at times when she spoke to him.

 

Its kind of my own fault for asking her friend but this is a total setback. I've always struggled to deal with thinking of her with somebody else but now i know she is is its even harder.

 

Anybody else going through this or was set back in their recovery when they heard their ex was seeing somebody else?

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my ex cheated on me with another guy, dumped me a week later had a new bf, so yeha I know how it feels. But you will get over it in due time, it sucks for now and it stings for awhile.

 

Somewhat it did help me move on becaue when I found out I ceased all contact stopped being a "friend", started to hate her and moved on with my life.

 

SO now heal yourself, cut all contact, what you don't know, hear, see, can't hurt you.

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Thanks for the reply EmperoR. Their the worst thoughts to have. I was doing great till i met her friend in the street and now my head is all over the place.

 

Like you i ceased all contact with her but i supose if i do run into her friends i won't bring her up and if they do i'l just tell her i'm not interested in how she's doing. I have'nt forgiven her anyway so being friends is'nt a problem. I just had that stupid human urge to ask how she was.

 

Totally agree what you don't know, hear, see, can't hurt you.

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When thoughts of my ex with another guy come into my head, I just start thinking about the negative side in my ex.

My ex had extreme mood swings, and I took the brunt of those. She hung out with her ex bf one night last fall getting totally drunk, calls me at 11pm to pick her up, says shes at his place with 2 of his roommates... :mad: (I originally got told she was at a party with friends) Were both 28, so I'd thought she would have made a better descision. I pulled up in the guys driveway pretty ticked off, and she gets 10x more ticked off that I'm upset over the whole thing. Jumps outta the car, flips out that I'm so upset over it. Obviously the fact she was drunk didn't help the situation. She maintains nothing happened, but I don't know why she would decide to get drunk, alone, with her ex and two of his roommates. Meanwhile I'm at home all night thinking she's at a friends party...

 

Anyways, I only need to remember those times, her habits... etc and that's usually enough to push thoughts about a new guy out of my mind. There are a lot of good qualities I really do miss about my ex, but there definitely was more negative in our relationship then good... I think as it usually goes, we tend just to remember the good times, and that's what brings us down.

I usually don't think about her with another guy, or the negative, I miss those good qualities in her that I don't think I'll find in someone else.

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