Bmadis0n Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 My girlfriend and bestfriend of 2 years told me she doesnt feel the same anymore and broke up with me almost 4 weeks ago(Right after we graduated highschool and 2 weeks until our 2 year anniversary.). She told me she loves me but does not feel in love and still wants me to be her bestfriend and really wants me in her life. She told me she cannot explain why she feels this way but it really hurts her. We are very, very close and our families even spend thanksgiving together camping. We were very close friends growing up and when we were sophomores we started to be with each other. We were completely in love and have tons of memories together. I'm her best friend and she also has a couple other close friends. It feels as if a part of me is missing. Being so young and having so many memories with someone and being with them everyday for so long...it just hurts. Things started to go sour just a few months ago after being sick of being together because we are together 24/7 and she barely spends time with friends. I started to become more distant from her and we started to act more like friends because I wasnt just her boyfriends...but her "girlfriend" as well you can say because she was with me more than any of her friends. After she broke up with me I freaked out and kind of pleaded to make things work and she told me to move on and don't wait for her and if its meant to be we will be together in the future. It has really hurt her especially to see me hurting so bad. She told me she doesn't feel like boyfriend and girlfriend anymore and finally has time to herself. That week I came over 3 times and talked to her she was a complete wreck crying and had not eaten but told me she didn't know when I asked her if we were done for good, but the next week said she thinks she is done. A week later she texted me asking how I was. I asked her out twice since and she said she was busy because she works long days (8 in the morning til 8 at night) but has not tried to contact me. She hasnt talked to me for 2 weeks. I then heard from a mutual friend she has been hanging out with another guy Her friends are very close to me as well and they said that she still has like 40 pictures of me in her room...and that she still wears the ear rings I gave her for Christmas. I just think moving on would be the best bet. I have been working on myself since the breakup (which happened 4 weeks ago) and I'm starting to look better and feel a little better each day. But I still really miss everything about her and do not want to let her go. Honestly, what are the chances she will return? I think it is high because of how close we are and how i know her better than anyone else...and eventually she will miss this and come back because 2 years is so long.... Advices, opinions, personal stories, whatever is greatly appreciated -Brandon
getbackwithex Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 First, get the idea out of your head that the likelyhood she will return is high. It's 50/50 in this game. Second chances happen in life, but if you dwell on that notion, it will only take longer for you to heal and move forward with your life. Second, ask yourself why you started to become more distant. People who are truly in love ARE best friends, and it shouldn't feel like burden to either person, so in this case you are to blame here. The good news is this other guy you speak of is a rebound. She might really like him, even start dating him. If she does, then you NEED TO ACCEPT IT no matter how hard it is. Also, if it happens DO NOT start begging, and pleading with her. It will only push her further away. Feel good about who you are, be confident, and show her you are OKAY with the break up. You also sound like you are pretty young, which means, get out there and meet new people. Not with the intention of just finding someone new to date to make her jealous, but seeing what else is out there, spending time with friends, and experiencing more that life has to offer. Take up a new hobby. It will only help you in the long run. She might be with this new guy, because it's just that, NEW EXCITING AND DIFFERENT. Also, stop contacting her for a month or two. When she wonders why you don't call her and reaches out to you, don't immediately call her or text her back. Ignore it, and when it happens again, just tell her you've been busy (but more importantly, BE BUSY!!!). And always keep the conversations casual and fun. Let her bring up the relationship, because if you put any kind of pressure on her, it will make it awkward and that is not going to help you. Always think positive, and keep your true emotions in check until you are absolutely sure the time is right to expose yourself to her.
Author Bmadis0n Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 Thanks a lot for the advice that is really smart thinking. Yes I am very young, we just graduated highschool the beginning of June. I will not hold back, I'm all out moving on. Hanging out with friends, lifting weights, working on my mustang, etc. I have also been hanging out with a hot girl that I met and it has helped me feel a bit better. If she see's me just sitting around being a loser. She will never come back. If she see's me changing myself for the better and other girls giving me attention, I will look more like a prize than a bum.
Author Bmadis0n Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 What you think is going on?? We have very close mutual friends since we have all gorwn up together. And they told me some things tonight when we spoke. they said she has every single picture up in her room...my hat on her dresser....notes i wrote to her...my jewelry to her.....everything has not moved at all. They try and ask her about things and she will not answer. They said they dont know whats going on in her mind she will just change the subject or not answer. When they talk about me she just acts like everything is cool and she does not say anything??
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