tooinlove Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I'm having one of those days when I just miss my SO soooo much. I can't stop crying. :'( I just want to to drop everything and go see him right now, but we both have obligations and are 400 miles away. We just had such an AMAZING weekend together after the first month of our LDR. Our relationship grew so much stronger and he even told me he wants to marry me and kept telling me how he loved me so much. <3 I should be happy and I am, but I can't help feeling sad and missing him, this past weekend, and the times before that when we lived together because the only way we'll see each other now is through these monthly visits for at least two more years. And just the phone in between. Maybe I'm having such a hard time because it was our first visit. I don't know. I know many of you have it way worse than me, but it's still just so hard. :'( How do you guys cope with these kinds of days?
somuchpain Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Hey, iv recently just had a time with my Gf, and i tell you we were both crushed, my GF got home and couldnt stop crying, i cryed and cryed the first couple of day. It always gets harder when you meet, becuase you know exactly what your missing, and your love grows and you miss them so much more. Iv been with my gf now for almost 8 months, and have seen her 3 times in tht time. It can seem so tough sometimes, really like you dont wanna accept it that your apart and just want a life together. I find just doing things you enjoy to take your mind off things even a little helps, iv found myself having days where i cry and cry to, and cnt see any positives. Im always learning to force the positives over the bad, as tough as it is sometimes you just have to know that your parter is going through this with you, and look forward to what you will have again in a month or so. Think of everything you love, the things you do together, and just tell yourself that you will have it again, that your not apart for ever. Ill see my gf in 57 days, i read some people have waited years, but im keeping in contact with her as much as i can, and talking about everything i feel. sometimes i find that crying it out helps me a bit, its perfectly fine to cry, we all go through so much pain, but im constantly trying to find new ways of getting time to fly and being happy with anything i can be happy about, im so happy i have such a perfect girl in my life, and one day this will all be over. I know a day will come where i break down and it seems like forever till ill see my Gf, but im going over all the best moments, everything i love to do with her, all the nice things we did, and know i will have it all again so soon:) When things are so **** they can only get better, so keep going strong and believe that things will get better. hope this helps, i know i ramble a bit, but yh, happy to try and help seb x
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 How do you guys cope with these kinds of days? Those days are always tough but I cope with it by just being in so much love and talking to her (that always does the trick) , also knowing that I have the most amazing woman ever to look forward spending forever with.
Xelha Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 I think one of the most important things is just keeping yourself busy while spending apart. It can help keep you from dwelling too much on the fact that you aren't together. Countdowns also seem to help a lot, I find.
love_darlings Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I think one of the most important things is just keeping yourself busy while spending apart. It can help keep you from dwelling too much on the fact that you aren't together. Countdowns also seem to help a lot, I find. I agree... Make your life busier and you'll survive!
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I agree... Make your life busier and you'll survive! I guess that I have never understood to make ones life busier. IMO that takes away more time that I can text and talk to Rayette and I wouldnt trade that time by making my life busier. The last thing I want to do is lose time with her because I was doing things to help me forget about her.
Bayern Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Use it as motivation. Keep busy working hard in whatever it is you do.
espearite Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 We talk daily through text, and see each other on webcams/vid conferencing/phone, whatever we happen to feel most comfortable with that day. Other than that, I wish the living arrangement part would just get worked out already.
aerogurl87 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Aww yeah those days suck. For my SO and I, when we get those "omg I miss you sooo much" moments, we text each other and look at pictures of us together from our previous visits together. Now that I'm getting a new camera though we'll be able to look at video of us together which should be a lot better. We also have virtual dates together which is surprisingly effective in lessening the distance that is between us physically. But yeah, just text or call your SO if you start to miss him too much. Have a webcam date or something, anything to make you feel closer to him at that moment.
jumi Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 We also have virtual dates together which is surprisingly effective in lessening the distance that is between us physically. my SO and I go to different colleges, right now he is actually studying abroad for 10 weeks. We use webcam every time we chat nearly every day. what do you do on your webcam dates? do you literally make it a date or do you have just casual conversations? just curious, it sounds like a cute idea.
Cavey Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Aww yeah those days suck. For my SO and I, when we get those "omg I miss you sooo much" moments, we text each other and look at pictures of us together from our previous visits together. Now that I'm getting a new camera though we'll be able to look at video of us together which should be a lot better. We also have virtual dates together which is surprisingly effective in lessening the distance that is between us physically. But yeah, just text or call your SO if you start to miss him too much. Have a webcam date or something, anything to make you feel closer to him at that moment. me and my girlfriend espearite talk almost daily and see each other on web cam almost daily also. we have never really done a web cam date though. would you be willing to make some suggestions for a web cam date.
lilymusiq Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Good luck!!! You can do it Like most people already said, you really just need to keep yourself busy. Find something else you love doing...like for me it was dancing but maybe you have a hobby? Just busy yourself and you'll find that time will fly by and you'll see him again soon! I was in a long distance relationship my whole freshman year and college and it was the hardest thing ever, but I found things I love doing and I got thru it.
AnnPod Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I love the being busy method, but you just can't work all the time. So another suggestion I could think of, find something that makes you laugh. Watch a comedy, meet people who make you smile no matter how miserable you feel. Ideally your boyfriend/girlfriend is a person with a good sense of humor, then you can directly find some help from the person you love (now how sweet is that).
Island Girl Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I know of one poster here who busies herself making gifts for her SO. Some of these being pictures to share, etc. When I'd feel like you are I would write to him. My letters were just talking and running through things in my head. Sometimes it would lead to other subjects as well, like what happened in my day and whether it helped or not and in what way it did or didn't. The frustrations of everyday things also added to my despair at times so I'd share those. It's true sometimes I'd be bawling as I wrote but it helped to get everything out. And weeks later when he got the letters I'd get an outpouring of support from him unasked for and usually unexpected. These conversations helped us get closer in ways I never thought possible. I used to put together gift baskets of things that came from memories we share. For instance, one of them had a red and white checked napkin in it and various things that would spark his memory of a particular picnic we had. That kept me busy, was an emotional outlet, and really touched him too. I hope you are feeling better.
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