BackUpOrGetStung Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I don't think so, but here goes: My girlfriend and I had a very rough final month. I got arrested(out the same day), and two weeks later her father died very suddenly. I was very supportive and took a step back when she needed to grieve with her family, I was fine taking a back seat. Then about a week and half after her father died, she told me that she's going to be practicing for her graduation recital(violin performance major), and she's going to be taking care of her mom and stuff. I told her I was there for her, whatever she needed, and then she tells me that she wants a break and we'll talk about our future together in a few weeks, or we should break up since it's "not fair to me" that she won't have as much time. Fine, so, not wanting to call it quits I opted for the "break" and that was pretty much it, no discussion of what a "break" is. We went out for my birthday a couple weeks later but not too much talking besides that. So then about a week or so after we ate dinner, I started hanging out with one of my friends that I hadn't seen in a couple months since I moved(she was my neighbor in my apt complex, and my gf lived upstairs). She had a boyfriend of 3 years, but she said she's basically been in love w/ me since she met me, and we started hooking up. My "gf" noticed my car in the parking lot for two weeks before calling me and asking what was up. I was in the mall when she called, so I lied and said I'd been hanging out with one of our mutual friends, who I didn't know she had already talked to. I called her the next day and told her the truth, and she flipped out on me. Then she came over to pick up some stuff, and really went off, saying we were still together, and we kissed on my birthday, and we were supposed to talk later and I'm an ******* basically. She didn't talk to me or answer my texts besides my birthday, hardly. I really do have feelings for this other girl and it's not me trying to make my ex jealous, though I guess I didn't have to park right in my normal spot in the garage(right in front of the elevator). Guess I'm just venting, but I'd also like some opinions as to whether I'm in the wrong and if she is justified in acting like this. This is an old situation but it got brought up recently so I'm just asking.
boogieboy Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 The normal conclusion to a break is a slow break up. Thats what I think your girl was doing. Its usually the same way. They say "lets take a break" to let you down easy instead of doing it clean. And personal problems is one of the common excuses. I dont think youre in the wrong, you probably saw it coming, thats why you were able to move on to this new girl so easily. Your ex was mad because you beat her to the punch, and kudos for you, not everyone gets to do that.
SRTtoZ Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I agree whole heartedly...BUT, I would probably have called my GF/EX (Whatever the EF u wanna call her) and tell her its over and good, no break...just a BREAK UP. Its not fair for you to take a back seat and not given attention. I can understand personal issues BUT isnt that what you're there for? A shoulder to lean on....someone to support her and BE there when noone else isnt? She left you high and dry...Be done with her.
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