blackhair Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 My girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago, which sounds very little but feels eternal. It was sudden, for me anyway, with no obvious signs such as a row etc. Anyway, I send her a voicemail about 3 weeks ago saying that I was there for her if she ever needed someone to talk to or share a laugh with, and she rang back telling me that she had moved on and that I was to do the same...but as much as I try, I don't want to. I think the world of her but don't know whether she really meant what she said??? I have written a song about how I feel and what I have done personally to ensure that the little things which I think brought the show to an end can be fixed...as she said she felt the spark had died out. I know its prob too soon to send the song, if I should send it at all, but I was thinking of sending it in about 6 weeks or so. Has anyone any opinions or suggestions as to where I am in this situation???
Thaddeus Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Here we go with this whole "spark" thing again. She felt it went away because it's supposed to go away. That initial rush of infatuation cannot be maintained indefinitely. But she's probably bought all the Hollywood b.s. that advances the idea that if the "spark" is gone then the relationship's not worth being in. It's futile to swim against that current, even if the current is built upon a myth. (Sorry, I'm mixing metaphors again.) But to the point: Don't send the song. Don't email/text/phone/whatever her. It's done. Over. Finis. Kaput. I know you don't want it to end and I'm not unsympathetic, but she told you the truth: She's moved on, and she suggests you do the same. So move forward. Stop living your life by constantly checking the rear-view mirror.
joseffrost Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 It's been 6 weeks for me too, and for the first few weeks I wrote poems, songs, letters and even a fairy tale (she always liked them) based on our relationship. They are all sitting in the bottom of a drawer and that is where they will stay. If she isn't interested then it will not have the same resonance to her and there is every chance that you will be hugely embarrassed if you choose to send it. If you are genuinely creative, and have talent, then keep the song, play it to friends, go to an open mic night and share it with the world. Out of great tragedies comes great inspiration, and you should let that flourish.
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