Clover Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 For the last couple of weeks my ex FWB (for about a year and a bit) had started to try and contact me again. Unsuccessfully with texts and phone calls. I've been completely ignoring him because he treated me pretty disrespectfully before I ended it. . Last time I saw him, it was in January, earlier on this year and pretty much haven't contacted him at all, since then. I got another text from him today saying along the lines of: 'I really do miss you and the way we were, we were so good together when we were on, I owe you big, I was an ungrateful c**t, I wanna fresh start, please give me a sincere second chance.' I am pretty sure he just wants to be FWB again but. . However, I just don't want that type of relationship with a guy now. I want to find something more meaningful with someone. Should I reply or just keep ignoring him?
Thaddeus Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 There are two schools of thought on this sort of thing. One school might say to contact him once and tell him that you're simply not interested in that sort of relationship anymore and you've moved on. It doesn't have to be nasty or anything, just a short, "I enjoyed our time together but I'm now looking for something more meaningful so I have moved on." It takes the guesswork out of the equation. Another school of thought would be to simply ignore his attempts at contact and let him figure it out for himself. For me personally, I'd be more inclined to do the former so he knows, clearly, that you're finished with that part of your life. But that's just me.
CaliGuy Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Meh. FWB isn't worth it. He's just horny. I say IGNORE unless you want your emotions screwed with again. Remember how he left too. Doesn't seem that he appreciated you then and if you go back to a FWB situation, he isn't going to respect/appreciate you now. Can't you do better than this loser?
georgia girl Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 If it were me and I wanted him back, I'd ignore it. He can chase a lot damned harder than that to get you back. If it's one text message that does the trick, then he won't appreciate what he's got. And believe me, if he really wants you back, he'll do more than text. If you were just a fleeting thought and the lack of a return text will put him off, you didn't want him back (even if you think you did). If I didn't want him back, I wouldn't call him but I would text him back. As the other poster said, I wouldn't be mean. Just something short and sweet like, "Thanks but not in that place anymore. Good luck and be happy." Then, if he texts you again, you can ignore it. You treated him squarely by letting him know - in the same manner he used to contact you - that you weren't going there again.
getbackwithex Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 'I really do miss you and the way we were, we were so good together when we were on, I owe you big, I was an ungrateful c**t, I wanna fresh start, please give me a sincere second chance.' Did he really use the C word!!!??? To a LADY??!!!! Move on girl...
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