lucy9216 Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 okay, so the guy I met online over a month ago I have posted previous threads about him. Basically we finally met 2 weeks ago after talking for 4 weeks, he said he wanted to see me again. I waited a week no call so I decided to text him and say hi, he was flirty and said he wanted to see me again soon. I told him well you know when I am available and then no response. I had thrown the towel in on this guy because it had been a week and no word, he left me hanging and never responded! (btw he has been inactive on his account since we met) I have started talking to other guys on my account and was moving on. Today I get a text from him saying that he is sorry he didn't respond sooner and was asking how I was, I told him good and asked him how he was. He said he needed a fun night out, I said yeah me too. then I asked him if he was going for his bike ride tonight because I know he usually goes on wed. nights and guess what he never responded! go figure! I am not sure what is going on with this guy, he gets flirty and says he wants to see me again and then gets flaky? any advice I would appreciate it
collegekid491 Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Has other prospects. He's got alot of girls hes dragging along and based on how its going hes flipping priorities as to which girl he gives his attention to. If the main one goes distant, he falls back to giving another girl priority... then the one that went distant starts talking to him again and he gives her priority again and neglects the others.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 Yup, that is kinda what I figured.... I did kinda like this one, but now I am upset that he even attempted to contact me again cause I had already moved on and assumed I wouldn't hear from him again, now he has me thinking about him again grrrr...... I probly should not respond to him anymore whenever he does decide to call or text or whatever! or if anyone has any tips on how to actually get this guy interested? if not then ignoring him will be the best thing for me to do, I hate to get strung along.
boogieboy Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Yup, that is kinda what I figured.... I did kinda like this one, but now I am upset that he even attempted to contact me again cause I had already moved on and assumed I wouldn't hear from him again, now he has me thinking about him again grrrr...... I probly should not respond to him anymore whenever he does decide to call or text or whatever! or if anyone has any tips on how to actually get this guy interested? if not then ignoring him will be the best thing for me to do, I hate to get strung along. If you cant get him interested naturally, then dont bother. You dont want a guy that looks at you and from the beginning says "i can do better". Thats why you are not at the top of the list. Move on to someone new, you will never get what you want from this guy, except for a goose chase.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 Dang it he should put me at the top of the list naturally haha.... I don't get it though we have alot of similar interests, seemed to have a good conversation going. I am really not a needy desperate person, very independant and confident and I don't think I am bad looking at all. I told myself I wasn't going to put my picture up but I guess I will put one for the sake of argument.... the guy is crazy right? http://w80.photobucket.com/flash/tagWidget.swf?mediaURL=aHR0cDovL2k4MC5waG90b2J1Y2tldC5jb20vYWxidW1zL2oxNzIvSmVubnlhNzExMDAvRnJpZW5kcyUyMGFuZCUyMEZhbWlseS9CcnVuY2gzLmpwZw%3D%3D" I am talking to a few other guys right now and they all show interest, they call or text every couple of days. I have little interest in the other ones though, why is it the one you are interested in doesent pursue and the one you are not does?
boogieboy Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Dang it he should put me at the top of the list naturally haha.... I don't get it though we have alot of similar interests, seemed to have a good conversation going. I am really not a needy desperate person, very independant and confident and I don't think I am bad looking at all. I told myself I wasn't going to put my picture up but I guess I will put one for the sake of argument.... the guy is crazy right? http://w80.photobucket.com/flash/tagWidget.swf?mediaURL=aHR0cDovL2k4MC5waG90b2J1Y2tldC5jb20vYWxidW1zL2oxNzIvSmVubnlhNzExMDAvRnJpZW5kcyUyMGFuZCUyMEZhbWlseS9CcnVuY2gzLmpwZw%3D%3D" I am talking to a few other guys right now and they all show interest, they call or text every couple of days. I have little interest in the other ones though, why is it the one you are interested in doesent pursue and the one you are not does? Youre getting addicted to the pursuit, to the guy who doesnt show as much interest. Be careful with that. Check out the guys youre not as interested in, you might get a surprize.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 I guess I didn't realize that boogieboy, thank you for the reality check I was just soooo confused because he was really interested and I did my best to do all the right things when you first meet someone but someone else that was probably more his type I think came along. If this one calls back I will just tell him I am busy and not talk to him again, just like he has done with me and I will put some focus on the ones that actually are interested and see what happens.
D-Lish Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 I hate to get strung along. You can only be strung along if you play along. One sure way to end his game is to stop playing it with him.
sammyhalliwel Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 @D-Lish yeah I agree, stop playing with him and just be careful with this guy.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 Thank you for the help on this one. I know to be careful with this guy now, he is flaky and not really interested! I am sure the one he is pursuing probably has little interest in him and that is why he now ocassionaly says hi to me when the other one becomes distant. I know now that when he does contact me again and I am sure he will, I will just tell him that I am busy and I will talk to him tomorrow but I just wont call him back! I realize is this someone that I would actually want part of my life? someone who is flaky and obviously not very interested? I will not allow myself to get strung along with this guy any longer, it is only going to bring me down! and I will become more involved with the guys that actually are interested in me, who knows I might end up likeing one we will see.
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