t0ri Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I'm just wondering how guys respond to their girlfriend if they are crying? Do you hug them? Hold them? Do nothing? Especially if you have inflicted the pain or reason for them crying...
stepka Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 If a man didn't hold me after making me cry, he'd be history.
Thaddeus Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I'm just wondering how guys respond to their girlfriend if they are crying? Do you hug them? Hold them? Do nothing? Especially if you have inflicted the pain or reason for them crying... Yes and no. Yes, if the reason she's upset is a valid one, and especially if I've said or done something unintentionally that's made her upset. No, if she's erupted into a Niagara of tears for the fifth or sixth time in nine minutes because she dropped some salad croutons onto the floor. It's all about context.
JUSTdaNCE Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Yes and no. No, if she's erupted into a Niagara of tears for the fifth or sixth time in nine minutes because she dropped some salad croutons onto the floor. .. LOL!!!!! Most of the time, I would expect my man to comfort me if I'm crying....but like Thaddeus said, in the right context. If I'm watching a movie and start crying I dont expect it...but if he made me cry, I would.
Sam Spade Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 i've rarely seen a girl actually cry (vs. being merely upset); so to answer the comforting question, the answer is generally yes, but it depends what is she upset about. If it is a legitimate problem/issue, then of course! If it is something ridiculous, I'd first stop and think if this really justifies being upset, and if not, I'd suggest her to stop being such a baby .
samspade Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I'm just wondering how guys respond to their girlfriend if they are crying? Do you hug them? Hold them? Do nothing? Especially if you have inflicted the pain or reason for them crying... It depends on the circumstance. If she's legitimately upset and crying, yes, I will hold her and comfort her. But if she's crying to manipulate me or to shift blame for something she did, I'd show her the door, no matter how much she thinks that it's my fault. Most women lack accountability for their actions, so it's a waste of time convincing them otherwise.
eric82 Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Think of it this way, should he expect you to give him a blow job every time he gets a hard-on? I mean if something you say or do arouses those feelings in him, shouldn't you always be expected to take care of him ? Hormones drive both crying and sexual arousal. One person being obligated to always appease the other person doesn't keep the balance on which healthy relationships are built, now does it? That's why, like the other poster said, the context of the situation is so important. Just as you would need to feel in the mood, so should your boyfriend when it comes to admitting his actions hurt you and his wanting to console your tears. To expect different would be unreasonable.
bluejeanbebe Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 "Think of it this way, should he expect you to give him a blow job every time he gets a hard-on? I mean if something you say or do arouses those feelings in him, shouldn't you always be expected to take care of him ?" oh PUH-LEASE. You cannot compare hugging someone for a few seconds because they are falling apart emotionally because of something insensitive ~you~ said, to giving you a blow job every time you are horny. That's apples and oranges and I resent the comparison.
Bayern Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 "Think of it this way, should he expect you to give him a blow job every time he gets a hard-on? I mean if something you say or do arouses those feelings in him, shouldn't you always be expected to take care of him ?" oh PUH-LEASE. You cannot compare hugging someone for a few seconds because they are falling apart emotionally because of something insensitive ~you~ said, to giving you a blow job every time you are horny. That's apples and oranges and I resent the comparison. It was a clever attempt, that's for sure. Depends. Even if you are the cause of the pain (actually especially so) then I see a large possibility she would want no physical contact at all.
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