Phoenix11 Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Broke up in April, nc, blocked him from my phone. All was well and I was healing nicely. Then one day he called me from a different number. Pleasant/nice/friendly conversation, so I unblocked him from my cell. Since then we have been texting every day. He said he wanted us to get away for the weekend to reconnect without distractions. At first I flat out said no. He persisted so I began to consider it. Every day he asked about it, so I eventually definitely said no. He said he will not ask again, but in the very next sentence/text he would say, I really wish you would go. It's what we need to reconnect. Pack your bags and just be ready. On and on he went. So just now we have a text conversation that went something like this (not verbatim): him: should I make reservations this weekend? me: no, you home now him: no, bachelor party....reservations? me: no, you are too funny. him: wow...3 strippers just entered the room me: (trying to appear unfazed) they hot? him: 2 not him: they can really shake, can you? him: going away with me this weekend, last time I ask...haha me: why is that funny him: she's trying to sit on me to read my text me: (trying to appear unfazed) if she is keeping your lap warm, I'm sure you won't mind allowing her a peek at your text. him: I want you to go away with me this weekend. him: Suzy (not real name) will go away with me...so the stripper says him: bye! Just that quickly he was distracted. Why contact me from a bachelor party anyway? Unsure if he ended the conversation so abruptly to get me to react or because he was hooking up with the stripper. Either way, so not cool. I hate him all over again. Ugh...just texted again..."Party is kicking"
darknightie Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 There's no way for us to know for sure if this was done to try to instigate a reaction out of you, or he was truly with this stripper - but either way it does not matter - what matters is he is telling you about it which means he wants you to be jealous. Your responses were great and certainly did not lead on to any sign of jealousy, so he ended the dialogue. Going away with him will inevitably = hooking up with him. Are you ok with this? If he is persisting after you've clearly stated NO, I'd be firm with him and say, stop asking, I am not open to that right now. He doesnt sound like a very respectful man, to be honest. Is my .02c anyway.
Author Phoenix11 Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 My (unfazed) response to "kicking party"... "Nothing like a kicking party to ease work stress. Glad you are having a good time, just don't hurt yourself. G'nite." If the party was so kicking, why text me about it now? I wouldn't. I would enjoy and recap about it later. I am really beginning to think he wants a reaction. Do guys really hook up with strippers at bachelor parties? Of course I know some do, but is it really this common and easy? whatever...
darknightie Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 No, its not common. It happens, but its not common and youre absolutely right - he would be enjoying it, not whipping out his cell phone.
lorilynne Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 what a tool! if you would have given in, then you would have been reeled back into his world & spend the rest of the night worrying about what he's doing with the stripper. exactly what he would want you to do. i applaud you for being able to stand firm...keep up the good work!
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