mammax3 Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 You're a genius! People like you make people like us questions our cynicisms. Personally, i try to love like I've never been hurt...it's not gonna be the new guy's fault that someone else didn't appreciate me, after all.....just keep thinking, life is unpredictable, and in the space of a day, you could meet someone and have your whole life change. And if not? You'll always have yourself! That's awesome. I never considered that somehow I was essentially punishing a current bf for the faults of the previous men in my life. That requires some contemplation!
Author Ruby Slippers Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 I started re-reading Men Who Can't Love, and it's aaaalllll coming back to me. Also, I've had some great conversations with friends the past few days and have turned a corner on all this, I think. Yesterday, I just snapped out of my blahs and remembered the sexy, sensual, confident, life-loving me I used to be. I took a long walk around my neighborhood, got my swagger on, and immediately felt my sex drive kick back up a few notches. I have started checking men out again, smiling and flirting, and scoping out the city for potentials. I am back to viewing men not as possible duplicates of my lame-o ex, but as brand new and possibly exciting and wonderful guys. Single year ends in about 6 weeks (wow!), and I feel that I am definitely getting ready to get silly with a man again. This time I think I'll be a lot smarter, though. My ex can take all his adolescent bitterness, fear, cynicism, and negativity and stick it up his uptight Northeastern butt.
boldjack Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Ruby, you are my kind of woman:love::love: Best of luck..... I really mean that.:D
moo Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I gave my ex blind trust. I can be very suspcious when it comes to men. I wanted to be fair and give my ex a clean slate so he wouldn't have to pay for what past bfs had done to me. I went too much the other way. I paid for it. He ripped everything out of me. Next time I will try to be more balanced. I handed my trust to him on a silver platter, even when he did or said weird or ridiculous things. Next time, I will be more cautious and let the new guy earn my trust and go much more slowly before giving my trust and heart away. Boy, did I learn my lesson.
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