ursusarctos Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I am a 58 year old man, I have had dubieties for about 7 years now, started a relationship with my soul mate two years ago, for the first 6-7 months we had sex 4-6 times a week, as I am a diabetic, I have ED, and Viagra, Cealis, etc, do not work for me, for the 6-7 month period this was not a problem, As I love to perform Oral sex on my girlfriend, and she would do the same for me, a typical session was many hours of foreplay, I just happen to like this, I know this is not usual for a male……..loll, The first time we met, we went to her apartment, and had sex for 7 hours, she seemed to enjoy this, I know I did, then one day while on a trip, she mentioned she was molested at an early age, and that she did not like oral sex, she did not want me to perform it on her, as she felt guilty that she would not precipitate, she did not want to have the multiple orgasms she was having anymore, because she felt frustrated after the act, that I could not penetrate her. At the time we were in a rough place, I was going through a chemo treatment, and her cooping mechanism is to withdraw into herself, and mine is the opposite, no matter how much I assured her that it was Ok not to perform oral on me, and that I still wanted to perform oral on her, she said my sex drive was abnormal for my age, and yes I admit I do enjoy sex, and would gladly do it every day……..loll I am frustrated, I love her with all my heart, but I am having a hard time understanding how it was so good in the beginning, and now is a bad thing.[/sIZE][/FONT]
LovieDove24 Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Maybe I do not fully understand ED, but how exactly were you able to get hard for oral sex in those first 6-7 months, if you could not get hard from penetration? Or weren't you? I'm guessing she is now choosing to shy away from giving you oral for the sheer fact that she is sick of performing on a flacid penis. Forget all the childhood trauma crap. Again, I'm sorry if this all sound extremely ignorant, it may be. But from where I stand, I don't see any other way around it. And if you can NEVER get hard, which part exactly of your "sex" sessions with her are you actually enjoying? And how can you be accused of a high sex drive if you are the one GIVING all the pleasure? I'm confuzzled...
mavislwf Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 You are moving way too fast for her. Slow it down and respect her wishes for not wanting oral anymore. I think you moved too fast in the getting to know you phase and now she's getting irked out.........
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