adamt Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 What happens if you do a revenge mission and it backfires and the ex isnt bothered as they have moved on?Infact they might be happy for you for appearing that you have moved on too
Thaddeus Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Funny thing is that I can honestly say that I've never felt like I wanted revenge on an ex. Even those (two) that cheated on me. I was angry about it but the thought of revenge honestly never crossed my mind. Not out of fear that it might backfire or anything like that, it's just that I truly never even considered it.
moo Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 No, Moo. I was attempting to be amusing and ironic, and trying to make the point that revenge is a stupid and petty idea. Such a thing would be called 'moving on', which some have said is the best revenge possible - but if you do it out of spite or in search of revenge then it is just crass. Oh, sorry 1,000 times. I did not detect the sarcasm, because many people in pain WOULD do that. So, sorry.
joseffrost Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Oh, sorry 1,000 times. I did not detect the sarcasm, because many people in pain WOULD do that. So, sorry. I know alot of people would, but they are probably not the people who are on LS trying to work out the million conflicting emotions in our heads. They are the happy ones who either never really loved their ex at all, or the dumpers themselves. Sometimes I envy these emotionally bankrupt people who can float through life without feeling the sadness that most of us have been through, but at least I know I have a soul.
moo Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Yes, I sometimes envy them too. Sometimes I think it must be nice treating people who love you any way you want to fulfill your selfish needs. It must be nice to just cut someone off, cut someone out of your heart and be able to block them out when they have questions and are confused about your coldness and your bizarre decisions. (Sigh). While I was suffering my ex was sleeping at night like a baby. I know this because when I called at 11: 30 pm to cry on the phone to him many nights, he was always sleeping. But, these are the real losers in life...not even a clue as to what it is like to be a good, supportive partner in a relationship. These are the people who have bad marriages, roller coaster relationships and then complain about their partners, presenting them as crazy instead of looking at the intensed selfishness they exhibited that greatly contributed to the behavior of their ex partner.
Charmaine_Champagne Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 omg please don't do this, just disappear from this guy completely, ur not as seedy and sad as he is to frequent those kinda sites. don't lower urself to his level buy doing this, it will make u look desperate. i've toyed with the idea of revenge. but my best revenge will be when he sees me looking really hot with an equally hot guy on my arm, one who deserves me. there are things i could have done to my ex, things that really would have hit him where it hurt- believe me i have a very creative imagination. But revenge would have involved effort and much i'm hurting now i can't be bothered, it would just confirm to him even more that i still care, it would prob even feed his ego anyway, the pendulum swings. i believe they get their comeuppance, don't let the idea of revenge eat you up, it will leave u feeling bitter. just try to move on from this worthless jerk. there will come a day when u won't want revenge because you won't care enough about him to execute it, you'll be indifferent. fantasize about it all you want but please don't carry this out
CaliGuy Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 To me, one who seeks revenge is only proving they are bitter and angry. Besides, it hurts you more than it does them and does not really cause any relief. As I've said a million times, the best revenge is a life well lived. (without them!). That said, the added caveat I have is feeling sorry for my replacement(s). Hah.
DustySaltus Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 My relationship endedwhen my fiance started checking my emails and seeing personal stuff to both my mom (about our issues-see my lost in translation post for the entire story if you want). Instead of talking about it and trying to work things out she: 1. Kicked me right out of the apartment, took the key and walked away like I was a complete stranger....after being engaged!!! 5000 miles from home. 2. Threatened to call my job and get me fired......and actually did send my boss an email. 3. Won't give me the ring back. 4. A week after I leave she tells me she met someone else and he is 10 times better than I ever was. 5. Tells me she decided to mail the ring only to send me an email saying the package was returned to sender and she would not be trying to send it out again....then telling me she decided to keep it again like a trophy. 6. Tells her mother that I was saying bad things about her.....never that. And what did I do for revenge??? Absolutely nothing and it feels great. You know why, because I feel that I have a clean soul. yes, there is part of me that loves her and misses her dearly and then there's a part of me that is very angry. Either way take the high road, you'll feel better about it in the long run.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 Well my BF is a freaking loser. He lives on these LIVE CAM sites, and I decided I'm not having a profile on there. I won't lower myself to look like I'm as pathetic as him to live and prey on these sites for random men. He isn't even that good looking, so surely he doesn't think someone will view HIM. LOL. Surely, he is not trying to meet a decent person on such a site? I guess he is just on there to find women to help with his manly needs. I admit I still want to do something mean to get back at him, but I just don't know if there really is anything that would truly help or make myself feel all that better. I hope he has a miserable life.
Charmaine_Champagne Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 do you really want a man who pimps those kind of sites for kicks? was he doing this when u & he were together
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 23, 2009 Author Posted July 23, 2009 do you really want a man who pimps those kind of sites for kicks? was he doing this when u & he were together No I don't. Well, I know he was registered on a few sites when we were together, but I don't know if he was active on them. Who knows, he probably was. I've seen him on Fubar,which is an online bar site, then a few live cam sites, and of course he has Facebook and Myspace. Its too bad he lives online, or I could get over this better. Its SO easy to just pull up a webpage and see what he is up to. He uses the same ID for all his stuff, which is is AOL messenger ID.There is nothing wrong with having fun online, but I do think because he is on these sites often, this could be a reflection of his character, not sure. It seems he is very "flirty", sort of leaning towards the player type, but I don't know. I couldn't see a truly decent guy flirting around on all those sites. I HATE HIM:lmao:
EmperorR Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 I could have destroyed my ex, but I take the higher road, she will get dealt with one day
NopeNah Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Like Caliguy said, The best revenge is living a GREAT life without them!
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