Taucher Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 My Ex and I finally handed our keys back to our rented flat 11 days ago. We are waiting for the deposit back. The landlady said that she would get our deposits back to us quickly. Also, the deposit is due to be paid in full into my Ex's account. She will then give me half. I have been on NC for 9 days, my ex texted me 9 days ago (asking if I handed the keys back OK) and I ignored her and havent contacted her since. I am just expecting her to contact me, I NEED the deposit back. Under tenancy laws, deposit should be paid back within 10 days. I HAVE HEARD NOTHING FROM MY EX. It feels like we are in a sort of game where the loser is the one who texts first. She is a stubborn girl. Should I text her? I kind of dont want to because I still love her desperately. T
delajoonal Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 first i am sorry you are going thru this break up:( it is so hard...i too am just separated from my H of 13 years..i am in my own apt. now.... since we both moved out of our marital home last month, and pretty much got all the bills in order etc...alimony is automatic into my bank acct..so my H and i have nothing to talk about..really... i turned OFF my CELL last thursday...knowing i am cutting off ALL my other contacts...BUT this was the only way i could do it...see H calls, texts, etc...sometimes he is very kind, then H is VERY MEAN...so either way the calls made me cry uncontrollably... so i am going on 6 days NC now...so far, my head is clearing out..i am able to think a bit more clearly and see things as they are...so i can move on..which is proving to be quite the task... so, i if you can, try as hard as you can to keep up the NC...in time, you too will see a difference in how you think and how you spend your time...everyone is different...so i can't say how long IT will take...but NC is a start, right? good luck and keep posting...instead of calling the X..POST here:)
Author Taucher Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 Thank you for replying. Sorry to hear about your situation also. 13 years? That's tough. However, I believe that the potential for eventual positive change increases with people coming out of longer relationships, so hang in there. Yes, I will maintain NC. She IS meant to contact me though, I want my deposit money back! I feel like she is waiting for me to break first. sigh. I know EXACTLY what you mean when you say that however your ex is on the phone, it is upsetting. Last time I spoke on the phone to my Ex, 11 days ago, she got angry as she perceived that I had moved and and said that I probably have a girlfriend already. Not true at all. It made me angry that she could be so bothered about this, even though she has no way of knowing WHAT I am feeling or if I have met anyone else. She left me! Why does it matter. Gah! Anyway, lets support each other eh?
sedgwick Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Can you contact the landlady and find out if she deposited the money? If she has, and you don't hear from your ex within the next few days, I'd send her a self-addressed stamped envelope so she can mail you your half. You don't need to have any actual communication that way. You could just stick a note on the envelope you send that says "for the deposit" so she knows why you sent it.
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