SweetyBear Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I've noticed on this board that there's a lot of patience given to newbees--at least up to a point. I've been on for a few months and I see the same pattern with everybody to different degrees and I definitely observed it in myself. Peace after a breakup doesn't seem to ever come until one accepts that it is over. People come on here searching for answers and are given a very simple solution: It's over, now go about your life and live it to its fullest. I just want to say how much I appreciate those who have been on for awhile sticking around, being patient with those of us who don't really want to hear what we need to and still being around when we come to our senses. Sometimes you read the same posts in different words from the same person over and over again and probably wonder if it's doing any good. I think it is. Just some of us are slower to catch on or maybe more stubborn in our origninal belief that we can do something to make someone want us again. Anyone new here? Please listen to some of these members who have been around a while. They're not experts, but what most of them are saying makes sense. Of course, you have to tweak advice for your individual situation, but the basics are here. I know all of you want your exes back, just like I do mine, but I've observed that it doesn't seem to be something you can "make" happen or "will" into being. That other person must want to come back. Once you accept that it's their choice and there's nothing you can do, it's so much easier. That's when the obsessing ends and some semblance of peace begins.
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