brock9911 Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 well its been 2 months since i broke up with my ex. and its been about 2 weeks since the last contact. now, is it too soon to start having feelings for someone else, or is it just a mix of emotions. the one girl i was talking to, who happens to be in europe has been constantly talking/contacting me since she left. shes openly admitted that she has feelings for me. now, its been a long time since iv been in any kind situation that involves the whole flirting and getting to know u stuff. i do like her also, but im wondering if its just because im getting over my ex and i like the attention. its been a little bit of a roller coaster, but even now, theres another girl who iv been talking to, and has interest, and i dont want to string either one along. eh i guess its a better problem to have than the break up feeling. or am i feeling this way because of the break up
EmptyPromises Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 i think its fine and normal to start to have feelings for someone else.. afterall you guys broke up 2 months ago so two months ago although you didnt start no contact, you did know that things werent working out be careful of rebounds though!
Road To Joy Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 Honestly, it sounds like a rebound. If I'm not mistaken, your relationship was 8 years long. It's not going to take you two months to get over her, unless feelings fizzled out (be honest with yourself about this). And I've been seeing your posts, you HAVE been in a rollercoaster. It seems like the regular healing routine to me. It's nice to have the attention someone else is giving you. It will help you kill time and help you not break NC. Also, it will take your mind off your ex. But please make sure not to take things too fast too soon. I have not done this but I have heard from MANY that if you have sex too soon after a breakup that you will feel empty after-wards and you will long for your ex. This may not be the case for everybody, but you don't want to take any chances. Take it from me, going back to square one after making even a tinsy bit of progress SUCKS. We don't want this! Harmless flirting is good. Also, for the sake of the girl, be honest with her. Tell her you got out of an 8 year relationship 2 months ago. This alone should tell her enough. Don't forget this can be a very good thing and can make your recovery a lot easier but just be careful.
Author brock9911 Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 yeah it just sux to not know if the feelings are to fill the void of my ex, or if i like the girl/girls. both the girls are relatively out of fresh break ups. old than mine, but still lingering in there mind. they both know my situation and i think thats another reason y there interested is because im not the random hook up kinda of guy. not saying it hasnt happened, but like you said, that emptyness feeling does have a tendancy to creep in. im also an emotional sucker so sometimes i wish i didnt have any feelings like some of my friends, but they'll be single forever. also i dont want to scare either one away, i figured id keep the flirting and talking and see where it leads. iv gotten pretty close to both of them in which we talk on a daily basis multiple times a day. right now im just weeding out which one im more interested in. and on another note, it was my ex's bday yesterday and i dont know y i felt the need to tell her happy bday.......but i didnt i had self control
Road To Joy Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 yeah it just sux to not know if the feelings are to fill the void of my ex, or if i like the girl/girls. both the girls are relatively out of fresh break ups. old than mine, but still lingering in there mind. they both know my situation and i think thats another reason y there interested is because im not the random hook up kinda of guy. not saying it hasnt happened, but like you said, that emptyness feeling does have a tendancy to creep in. im also an emotional sucker so sometimes i wish i didnt have any feelings like some of my friends, but they'll be single forever. also i dont want to scare either one away, i figured id keep the flirting and talking and see where it leads. iv gotten pretty close to both of them in which we talk on a daily basis multiple times a day. right now im just weeding out which one im more interested in. and on another note, it was my ex's bday yesterday and i dont know y i felt the need to tell her happy bday.......but i didnt i had self control You're doing great! It's so good to see progress in people. And I, too, am an emotional sucker. Hopefully I can find another emotional sucker to be with. Emotional suckers shouldn't be with non-emotional suckers, and I learned that the hard way.
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