skreen23 Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I bumped into my ex a month ago and it went kind of awkwardly. In my eyes i was all chat and friendly and she was stand offish and a little weird. Fast forward to today, i rang her in a moment of weakness. We were chatting away and the last meeting was brought up. I tell her i was surprised she was so awkward around me and she says what do i expect when I was acting so weird. She even said i was giving out to her. This really opened my eyes, our perspective on the same situation was completely different. A lot of the stories here, maybe all, are only from one side. We may think we're being all cool and sophistcated but to the outside world we're a gibbering wreck.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 That's why some people think I'm mean on this site. I don't hold people's hands, I understand there are two sides to every coin, and so I don't run and grab people's hands out of empathy. I used to, but I don't anymore. I understand these people don't need someone telling them "Aww it's going to be all right". They need someone to tell them that they weren't innocent, either. They need to have their mistakes shown to them, so they can change. I know there is a WHOLE other side to their story, in the eyes of the dumpee.
adamt Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 2 sides to every story is caused by poor communication in the relationship. Situations get out of hand without being talked about until it is too late and relationship in crisis
Charmaine_Champagne Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 i realise there are two sides to every story and i know i was not 100% innocent in my relationship, no1 is everyone has faults and things they will now know to do differently in a new relationship. tho i certainly put up with alot of sh*t also. i agree with the 2 sides thing but my gripe and why i posted on here so much was that no matter what, a person should break up with you decently- not like my ex who after 6 years thought it would be fun to ignore me and mess me around. i was always faithful, i gave him chance after chance when he stupidly messed up so many times over the years.. hey maybe that was a fault of mine also, maybe i was a doormat, too much of a walk over i helped my ex get a job, kept him out of trouble, put him on the road to straight and narrow and then when he got on his feet he finally turned round and shat on me. i was a good influence on his life, i also loved him very much which he knew. there are always two sides but don't u agree often one person can be way more to blame than the other? what about ppl who post on here about a partner who beat them or cheated on them? can there be two sides to that?
Author skreen23 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 Oh, oh, i think my first post was as clear as mud. When i bumped into my ex last time i thought SHE was been weird but when i was talking to her today she said I was acting off. I asked friends what this was about after the meeting and of course gave my version of events. Their advice was thus based on my version of events. The advice i got was "She's not right in the head." Now today when we were talking she said i was acting weird, talking real fast, walking miles ahead of her etc. Now i don't think i was being weird but thats her perspective on the meeting. Now the break up was her doing, needs to "be by herself," looking back i can't see anything major i did wrong. So its 85% her fault the breakup. I just mean subsequent meetings, times when i thought i was been "normal" "mature"etc, maybe sometimes my emotions got the better of me and i came across as a freak. Maybe some of the interactions we read about on this forum are the same.
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