sodapop Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 so, i've been together with my boyfriend about two and half years. we met over the internet, and he is planning to meet up with me soon. he lives in california and i live in asia. so that's a huge gap plus time difference. but we've figured that out. although we're at a stage where we're very comfortable with each other, we still have fights. sometimes they are really stupid, but im not sure if they mean some underlying problems. recently, we discovered the joy of watching movies together. it's a great way to feel close to each other. last night, we downloaded this movie and were planning to watch it together. since there was time difference, he decides that he'll go to sleep, and asks me to wake him up (by calling on skype) at 5am his time. i do, and while it takes forever to wake him up, by 6am his time he's awake. but very very drowsy. so i suggest we watch the movie tomorrow and tell him to keep sleeping. he does, and i get very bored with nothing to do. after a while, i decide that i'll go watch another movie. i tell him that, but he gets upset. he reminds me that a while ago, i told him i like watching movies with him, and not by myself. i did, because it is much more fun watching it with someone than by myself. he accuses me of lying, which i find extremely ridiculous. he replies saying something like "whatever, go watch the movie by yourself then and i'll sleep. but i wont watch the other one with you anymore." this is really annoying, personally i think he's acting like a child. i dont even know how to deal with him. i just think its annoying. i want to know what to do in a situation like this.
somuchpain Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 He does sound like hes being chilish, but if he wants to act like that, then you can either just leave him to act like that, and let him be like that then see if he comes around and realises what hes doing and that hes not being very nice to you. Or i would just have a serious talk with him, tell him what your feeling and just talk about it, tell him it affects you when he acts like that. Iv found sometimes with the frustration of an LDR, that i can get really sensitive towards almost anything, and just act very unfair towards my girlfriend, and i feel so bad when iv done tht, and apologise and tell her things and just talk about it, i find it very difficult to always be happy in this sort of situation. But the best thing i think to do is talk about it, and see if he stops the childish stuff. Hope this helps seb x
northstar1 Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 so, i've been together with my boyfriend about two and half years. we met over the internet, and he is planning to meet up with me soon. he lives in california and i live in asia. so that's a huge gap plus time difference. but we've figured that out. although we're at a stage where we're very comfortable with each other, we still have fights. sometimes they are really stupid, but im not sure if they mean some underlying problems. recently, we discovered the joy of watching movies together. it's a great way to feel close to each other. last night, we downloaded this movie and were planning to watch it together. since there was time difference, he decides that he'll go to sleep, and asks me to wake him up (by calling on skype) at 5am his time. i do, and while it takes forever to wake him up, by 6am his time he's awake. but very very drowsy. so i suggest we watch the movie tomorrow and tell him to keep sleeping. he does, and i get very bored with nothing to do. after a while, i decide that i'll go watch another movie. i tell him that, but he gets upset. he reminds me that a while ago, i told him i like watching movies with him, and not by myself. i did, because it is much more fun watching it with someone than by myself. he accuses me of lying, which i find extremely ridiculous. he replies saying something like "whatever, go watch the movie by yourself then and i'll sleep. but i wont watch the other one with you anymore." this is really annoying, personally i think he's acting like a child. i dont even know how to deal with him. i just think its annoying. i want to know what to do in a situation like this. Sounds childish. The underlying problem may be that you have dated for 2 years and haven't met yet. Its easy to get frustrated over electronic means. Talk to him about it, but I'd also suggest trying to firm up a date to meet in person, since you really can't expect to have this virtual thing last forever
Author sodapop Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 it's an uncommon situation for us. i'm 17 and he's in his early 20's, so there are some problems with our age difference. although it doesnt affect us, he fears that it would cause unnecessary trouble if he visited before i turned 18. he also has financial problems lately. and its impossible for me to visit him, at least now. but we've been working on it and he's been saving up. it is very frustrating at times but we're not willing to break up because we can't wait.
somuchpain Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I think its good your not letting that take you down, im sure you will see eachother in time, just keep going strong and youl both get there:) seb x
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