chels Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Hi, so my new-ish boyfriend went to Vegas for a bachelor party. The first 2 days he called or texted a few times, just to see what I've been up to and say he missed me. So I got the idea to send him a flirty photo text, just of my bare stomach and my undies and the message "Come home!" We have sex and he's made suggestive comments/texts on the phone before, so I thought he'd like it. This was his text in response: "Hi. Can't talk, I'm at a show. Can't wait to cuddle with you." Huh? I feel a bit blown off, and I've never even heard him say something couple-cutesy like that before (we've been dating 2 months) and I'm a little surprised that it came after my attempt at a sexy pic. Maybe I just suck at being sexy or he thought it was too forward or something? Keep in mind that we haven't been very inhibited so it's not like the pic was coming out of nowhere. It just seems like he didn't find it very exciting or something.
Athena Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Nah it's not you... it's Vegas, baby! The 'show' was probably a lap dance... hmm
Ruby Slippers Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I think that's pretty lame. You send him a sexy picture and he can't even be bothered to follow up with a flirty comment or something? Lame-o. Of course, I also think your "Come home!" was over the top -- sounds possessive. Something light and fun would have been better.
2sure Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Apologize for sending the picture, telling him it was supposed to go somewhere else.
boogieboy Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Dont do anything and stop reading too much into it. Sounds like you sent the pic more for a compliment rather than for him to enjoy. When he slept with you already in the last two months, a picture of your stomach isnt a big deal. He prolly doesnt want to encourage you to keep sending pics like that because he doesnt want to have to keep complimenting you, that type of thing gets addictive. If you sent the pic just to get complimented on it, he can smell that you will need too much attention. Back off a bit.
Author chels Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 Thanks everyone. I guess that's what I was afraid of, that he would find it possessive/a cry for attention/silly. I just thought it would sexy and a little out of the ordinary or something. That's the last time I take Cosmo's advice... I didn't respond by the way. I shouldn't bring it up at all, right?
hitzpink Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Aww, I think you're over-thinking it! Granted, "Can't wait to cuddle with you" is a bit of a strange response to a sexy/flirty pic (although it is a nice thing to say), but I don't think it's as bad as you're making it out to be. Also, in response to boogieboy's comment, I've NEVER met a guy who wanted to discourage girls from sending them pictures like that. lol. I wouldn't bring it up again but I also wouldn't stress out about it. I know you didn't get the exact reaction you wanted, but that doesn't mean he didn't think the pic was sexy. He was probably just busy & distracted by his friends. I had the same anxious feeling when I sent a similar pic to a guy I am dating and he kinda responsed like your bf did... But a few days later he brought it up again and said I should send him more because he loved it. I can't think of any reason why your bf wouldn't feel the same way.
boogieboy Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Thanks everyone. I guess that's what I was afraid of, that he would find it possessive/a cry for attention/silly. I just thought it would sexy and a little out of the ordinary or something. That's the last time I take Cosmo's advice... I didn't respond by the way. I shouldn't bring it up at all, right? Put it this way, do you open doors for people so they dont have to open the door, or do you do it just to hear "thank you"? Drop it, its just a picture. Dont nag him about how hes not replying to your texts, thats clingy and needy. You can send him pictures once in a while, but if he doesnt care about it, then stop doing it. Dont do it just to get a reaction either.
Trialbyfire Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 "Can't wait to cuddle with you" is suggestive, in a discreet way. THINK about it!
lilymusiq Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Apologize for sending the picture, telling him it was supposed to go somewhere else. hahaha yes that will make him care! love it
tanbark813 Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 There is a ton of stuff to do in Vegas (and not just the "bad" stuff either) so I wouldn't take it personally. Plus, guys give other guys shyt if they spend too much time texting/calling their gf's back home on a trip like this. He probably was legitimately busy. The unprecedented cutesy comment was probably due to genuinely missing you and plenty of booze. Finally, if you guys have had sex and, by your own admission, are not very inhibited then a tummy + panties pic is pretty tame. If you want him to get more excited then send over some X-rated stuff rather than PG-rated.
Author chels Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 Hahaha, I love all of your responses. I've never done something like that before and I admit I got panicky the moment I sent it. And I didn't want to send something too X-rated because 1) I wanted it to be a "use your imagination" thing, not all like BAM! HERE IT IS... and 2) i didn't want to end up naked on the Internet someday!! I do feel better now, I'm glad most of you agree the cuddling comment seems out-of-place. Like the boogieboy said, if he isn't into it I just won't do it anymore. Are there ANY ways of having fun like that that don't run the risk of feeling dumb afterwards?!
refurb Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Not the best reply, but I wouldn't read anything into it. If he comes home and everything is fine, don't worry about it. RF
socialight Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 tanbark is 50% correct. First, don't assume that it was him. At any good vegas party, a friend of his has stolen his phone and has been sending random messages for the last 3 days. Second, if it's a vegas party, the LAST thing you want to do is send him texts that essentially scream "ME ME ME WHAT ABOUT ME DON'T FORGET ABOUT ME". The better thing to do is NOT TEXT OR CALL AT ALL so he is wondering what you are up to instead.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Second, if it's a vegas party, the LAST thing you want to do is send him texts that essentially scream "ME ME ME WHAT ABOUT ME DON'T FORGET ABOUT ME". The better thing to do is NOT TEXT OR CALL AT ALL so he is wondering what you are up to instead. Yep, have to agree with you there.
Author chels Posted July 24, 2009 Author Posted July 24, 2009 tanbark is 50% correct. If it's a vegas party, the LAST thing you want to do is send him texts that essentially scream "ME ME ME WHAT ABOUT ME DON'T FORGET ABOUT ME". The better thing to do is NOT TEXT OR CALL AT ALL so he is wondering what you are up to instead. Yikes! Really?! I'm even more embarrassed if that is possibly what he thought of it. And here I thought I was being a cool girlfriend, I would've felt bitchy if I didn't call or text him at all when he was contacting me a few times a day. I mean, wouldn't he assume I don't appreciate him if I'm ignoring him all the time? One thing's for sure... any girls out there who are about to send a sexy pic to their boyfriend, think twice!
Kamille Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 I'm in the "you're over thinking this club". I even think the "Cuddle" comment is cute and adorable. I seriously don't see what's wrong with it. I think you're just feeling insecure and that's why you're over analyzing the text. Because really, there is nothing wrong with it. He's in vegas, he most certainly must be busy and, honestly, it sounds to me like he liked the text and ... he genuinely cannot wait to cuddle with you. He has no way of knowing how vulnerable that text made you feel. He probably thinks it's playful and confident and that's why he didn't feel the need to reassure you with an outlandish display of ... what? Like really, what response would have made you feel better here? Stop stressing over it.
BobSacamento Posted July 24, 2009 Posted July 24, 2009 The dude is in Vegas. Just be happy you even received a texty text.
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