frustrated924 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 A guy I have know for about seven months. We met online. We talk a lot online but on phone. We have also been hanging out in person as well. We got in an argument online the other night. He kept bugging me to cyber with him haha i know. i told him i wasn't in the mood and stuff. he wanted me to turn on my cam and i said sorry i'm not in the mood tonight and really tired. his reaction was maybe i don't turn you on anymore, and this mad me really mad! we hadn't really got into a bad argument, but he kept making comments like he was going to go take care of his business alone and this was making me feel bad like he was accusing me of being a bad gf and not helping him on the stupid internet. i never refuse him in person. dumb right? so we kept talking about this and i probably should have just said ok fine and logged off but i didn't not. i asked him if he was going to go talk to someone else or look at other girls online. he said "why do you care you ,don't help me" AH! this really made me upset. then this is when i think he crossed the line, he was like "good thing i don't cheat like most guys do when a girl says no". What do you think of what he said to me. Was that last comment a threat or what can you make of it? it really hurt me and that he even used the word CHEAT. he said he was just tired and not thinking, but i dunno. tell me what you think. Thank you
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 It doesn't sound like a threat, so much. More like his last-ditch effort to guilt you into doing what he wants you to do. He sounds very immature. Good for you for not caving. But if I were you, I'd be reconsidering whether this guy is worth your time. Don't you deserve better than that?
Jilly Bean Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 i asked him if he was going to go talk to someone else or look at other girls online. Hon, you're the one who drove the conversation there, not him. He was probably angry you even brought that up. It showed a lot of insecurity on your part. Give it a few days, and I'm sure you'll work it out. How old are you both?
Author frustrated924 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 I'm the one that drove him to say "good thing I don't cheat like most guys do when the girl says no" ????? You say it like its not his fault one bit. What i said gave him no right to say that. You don't know what all he said to me. And me asking if he is going to talk to other girls, well he already was insinuating he may, so I asked. I respect your opinion though..... Good grief............. Hon, you're the one who drove the conversation there, not him. He was probably angry you even brought that up. It showed a lot of insecurity on your part. Give it a few days, and I'm sure you'll work it out. How old are you both?
hoping2heal Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I agree it may be a last minute guilt effort, however ; why on earth would someone telling you they DON'T cheat register as a threat? I can't really tell based on a post, so it may not be completely accurate but you seem like you may be a tad bit of a drama queen. You are looking to make an issue out of one that is not there. Now, I understand being upset about the way he acted that is a seperate issue, but to try and turn him stating he doesn't cheat into a threat? Just a tad toooo melo dramatic.
Author frustrated924 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 I'm dramatic , well what he said really wasn't too low key either. Well it could be taken as a threat or warning. Him telling me this possibly could be an implication that he might cheat or flirt with other girls.either way i wouldn't say he was exactly being nice how do you not see this, but i know everyone has their own opinion. i don't see the relationship lasting much longer anyhow.
hitzpink Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Wow... I would be pissed if my bf said that to me. I think it sounds like a threat, or at the very least like he was trying to guilt you into cybering with him. Either one is ridiculous and unacceptable! For him to say "good thing I don't cheat when a girl says no" implies that you are obligated to "help" him whenever he is horny, WHICH YOU ARE NOT! You are his girlfriend not his personal sextoy. And if him wanting sex when you don't is going to tempt him to cheat, or make him feel like a martyr for not cheating? Man...eff that. Ugh this kind of behavior from guys pisses me off. You are allowed to refuse him whenever you want to. You are never obligated to have sex with someone, and it is wrong of him to try to make you feel like you should be happy he didn't cheat on you just because you weren't in the mood. Also, the statement that most guys cheat when a girl tells them no is offensive and untrue. Maybe some guys do but that is because they are *******s, not because the girl drove them to cheat because she wouldn't put out once in awhile.
Enema Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Everything he said makes him sound like an immature, selfish, manipulative jerk. The last thing he said isn't a threat, just further evidence of the above.
Els Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Everything he said makes him sound like an immature, selfish, manipulative jerk. The last thing he said isn't a threat, just further evidence of the above. Agreed. OP, just curious, why do you avoid all questions asking how old you are?
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