aloneanddepressed Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Started to put this thread in the "abuse" section, but it seems like VERY few people read it..lol. Someone that I knew(a male) was abused both physically and verbally as a child by their parents. I found out they also used to abuse their own siblings, and I would say they were around the ages of 14-16, when they "abused". I'm not completely sure. Well, he supposedly verbally abused them...called them names. He would push them into things, pin them down, punch them and hit them. It was way more than normal rough playing as kids or so I was told. I do not know if he ever abused friends, or GF's. My question is, do you think a person can completely grow out of this behavior, and never display any sort of abusive behaviors again, or what do you think? How could someone completely get over being abused and being an abuser as well? What are your opinions?
2sure Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Breaking the cycle of abuse and family dysfunction can be difficult so this is a good question. Thats why important to know and understand the background and values of our partners. But the cycle can be broken. How often has everyone said " I'm not going to do what my parents did"...only to have children and see that you have become your parents. It has to be a conscious effort. If the man you are referring to is years past his teen abuse/abusiveness , but does not have a life relationship experience or children... It wouldnt take long to figure out how he acts under stress. Does he drink? Does he name call? Those are behaviors I would want to watch.
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