New_life Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 So I was painfully surviving the NC, went to sleep yesterday and got a text from an unknown number saying "Im drunkkkkkk", so I thought it was one of my friends and answer stop drinking, take care.. Get a call and it was the ex, didnt understad anything really, she just kept saying go to sleep and that she was moving tomorrow (today) to a new city she got accepted, so I said ok well take care having a good life over there. Stupid me asks: so do you even miss me? answer: YES, BUT EVERYONE CHOOSES TO DO WHAT THEY WANT. What the hell? I know I shouldnt even be thinking about her, I dont want to start rambling in my mind... Any clues, or just a drunk answer? However I think drunk people say the truth... Whatever, I wish to change my number but its a work phone.. I just hate thinking about her while she makes out with another guy. Seeing that she got drunk today actually made me happy, to know that she is going back to the old negative ways, with me she stopped smoking and drinking, swearing etccc. What did that mean??
Exit Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Drunk or not, it's not like she said "I want you back". "Everyone chooses to do what they want" sounds like she is moving on, in a drunk sort of way. Don't waste your time analyzing it. She wouldn't be moving to a new city if she wanted it to work out.
Charmaine_Champagne Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 why don't they just move on tho, i hate the way dumpers or exes want you out of their life and yet when u leave they start doing things to get your attention.. ahh, the old famous drunken attention-seeking text kinda seems like in a drunken way she is letting u know 'i've moved on' 1) i have a new number 2) i'm moving to a new city 3) i drink now in her own little drunken bubble she prob wanted you to respond and prob did it to get a reaction. ahh why do they do this?!
Author New_life Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 yeah def i hate that she keeps sending me stupid texts asking me where am i etc, It would be great if she left the city, however I know that she wont, it was just to get my attention. She said she wanted to leave because to many memories of me (4 years together!), if she left she would leave the jass that she is with now, so that would be great.. I just hate the everyone chooses thing..... I wanted to text her today, please dont text me when your drunk, is it wrong?
Thomas X Forever Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Why do they do this? The short answer? Personal weakness, intolerance towards dealing with pain and reality. What does this mean, new_life? Absolutely nothing. You should've never answered the call from your ex. And yes, breaking NC for ANY reason is wrong. Just ignore anonymous calls in the future, and especially calls from your ex. Understood?
Charmaine_Champagne Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 this is something i don't understand, they break up with you yet once u disappear they seek out your attention- i was with my ex 6 years, he ended it with me yet every 3 weeks or so id get a drunken text or even a blank text or he'd change his msn screen name (i had him blocked) to something like R.I.P someone and other immature attention seeking nonsense. please do not text her, you are playing into her hands. she wants a reaction from u, do not give her the satisfaction. also rem that just because they want our attention or they want a response it doesn't mean they want us back, it could be just an ego feed or they want to see if we will still jump at the slightest breath from them i was 5 months NC after my ex cruelly dumped me and i was doing ok, id kept my dignity, then yesterday i broke NC after months of going so strong. don't do it, please don't make the same mistake as me. i now look weak and needy in my exs eyes even after 5months he now knows im still upset. i tried to move on but i got it into my head i needed closure and that i needed to speak with him because it all ended abruptly back in Feb and i went NC right away. well yesterday i desperately contacted my ex and ofcourse i didn't get closure, i actually just fed his ego and put him on a pedestal. he was nasty to me and played with my emotions because i walked into it, i let him by contacting him and he did it because he had the power and he could. if you contact her she will prob only toy with your emotions all over again and say more attention seeking things that will just upset you more and then it'l be more sh*t for u to anaylze. please resist! u'll just hurt yourself more. i made a fool of myself yesterday and i regret it now esp as id made it to nearly 150 days NC (yes i counted) it gets to me tho, i mean if i really wanted some1 out of my life id never contact them again.. so it bothers me why dumpers do this
Author New_life Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 thank yoy for the words charmaine... Youre right, I shouldnt contact her.. What you say is the biggest dilemma: why do they contact you if they want you out of their life. Even if its for attention and ego, I mean if I had a stalker crazy about me, would I contact her? No. Not that im a stalker, I just mean they should let us go. Even though, it hurts soo much knowing they dont think about you.. At least she contacts me because she thinks about me, right? hmmm this is crazy!!! I too count the days of NC, Im sooo detoxing from her. I wish to make it to the next 5 months as well...
Author New_life Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Unfortunatly, I cant ignore the calls from unknown numbers since its my work phone... But your right Thomas I shouldnt contact her anymore. Someone said to avoid live the plague, I just have to program my mind to think that way about her.
moo Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 i was 5 months NC after my ex cruelly dumped me and i was doing ok, id kept my dignity, then yesterday i broke NC after months of going so strong. don't do it, please don't make the same mistake as me. i now look weak and needy in my exs eyes even after 5months he now knows im still upset. CC, you are way too hard on yourself. You were NC for 5 months, that's a real achievement. So what if he thinks you are weak? Who cares what that bonehead thinks? You should be proud of yourself for being NC for 5 months. Give a cheer for yourself and get back on the wagon...if you fall off again, then just get back on. You are not perfect. None of us are. I broke NC three times in the past two months, but as I said before in another thread, I haven't contacted my ex lately for two weeks. Yes, I did check up on him on the internet...baby steps...still, I did not contact him and I am proud of myself...it hurts like hell. I know some say full NC includes not even looking for them on the internet. And I tried to be that way...but I got so anxious, it was either look him up on the internet or contact him, so I took the former. He's not on facebook, he is just involved in some activities that are on the web, that's all. I'm sure my ex thinks I'm crazy because of the way I acted when he so cruelly left me. But....I don't care too much about what he thinks of me anymore. He knows I think he's a monster, but I'm sure he doesn't loose any sleep over it. You are trying to be strong...you should say "HURRAY FOR ME!"
justinintransit Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 hey great little google search this hang in there soldiers! - funny thing the drunk sms thing. Friend and I have figured it out while having a beer. First before you fire skype, sms etc off talk to the master (even for 2 minutes) which is the darth vader fireplace or other non lifeform object and think!! ahahah then delete! yea been horribly in love - me lady after 4th oops said go now, but she had huge issues and the coke did not help her! so anyways finally after much love trying to move on and yes i did stalk her and go babe please reconsider anyways she was a tough one to crack and I jumped right back in... worked out went to gym and became really something visually and mentally, took months then went manic mingling and went large facebook went to new proportions and made beutiful new and rekindilled old freinds (as i moved to new city and continent) and found a loverly wonderful person taking it slow etc...then I get the drunken ex abusive notes and then with 44 mutual freinds and interconnected business she is finance manager at one of my clients ahahah so she all good with everything on that side, but she cant look me in the eyes and always has something negative to say. Exactly as what you said above so shot thx for advice helped a lot to break the chords from the past - take care love is a real festival ride .. still think she likes me, but story about different playing fields ect blabla and I must respect her descion and move on as hard as it is.. was cured of jealousy with her so that was a bonus guess we have to look at our exes and say thx for the positive stuff they taught us hey..and forget the garbage parts
Beeotch Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I have no idea what it means... But my guess is it doesn't mean anything profound...so you shouldn't worry your head trying to decipher that sentence/incident esp if the person admits their drunkenness. Been there, done that. I am no longer interested or have the energy to decipher my ex's behavior. It is very tiresome and the worst part is: unless they actually confirm or deny your guesses....it remains an unknown! No one on LS knows what's in their minds...you as their ex may have a better idea..but still only her and God know what it meant or didn't mean.
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