Els Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Southeast Asia. You're most welcome -- however, we are currently undergoing a few months of horrendous haze (basically, where the air quality is as bad as a mining quarry's), so you might wanna time your move properly.
Isolde Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I agree that men are protective of women they love. If you're only talking about superficial protectiveness, like helping a stranger, then it does seem this is more frequent when there is a height difference between the two people, probably for the reason SG stated.
MN randomguy Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Well, if it makes you feel better, 5'7" is considered tall where I come from. Wow. Where in SE Asia? I'm thinking about spending a year in S. Korea. How would they take a 6'4" honky? To the original question, I guess I see a woman struggling with something and I remember when I was her size to decide how bearable the burden is. So, if she's 6'. I think, OK so she's the size I was as a 9th grader, she can handle it. if she's 5'2" that's me in 4th grade. Maybe she needs some help. as far as holding doors and stuff like that I'm running into fewer militant feminists and getting fewer nasty looks for it. This is from all women except baby boomers, so... I dunno.
carhill Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I'm generally larger (taller and heavier) than most women and have never noted any marked difference about how I feel in that regard, relevant to a woman's size. I do note, depending on her personality and aura, a relevant difference; women who generally act or project more 'male' get less deference and generally less 'help' or 'protection'.
Els Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Wow. Where in SE Asia? I prefer to withhold that information whenever possible if you don't mind thinking about spending a year in S. Korea. How would they take a 6'4" honky? Well S. Korea is REALLY far from SE Asia, LOL. Anyway even in 'short' countries your height shouldn't be a problem really. Except for doorways and stuff. The women would probably find you hot. as holding doors and stuff like that I'm running into fewer militant feminists and getting fewer nasty looks for it. This is from all women except baby boomers, so... I dunno. What? You got nasty looks for that???
Jersey Shortie Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Kizik, my older brother is 5'8 and very gentlemanly as well. Consider it having a leg up on the competition.
nobody's girl Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Well, as a woman slightly under 5 feet tall, I can't say I've felt more "protected" by any guys. Matter of fact, in most cases I get stuck in the "kid sister" or "little buddy" role. I've found it's the women who, regardless of height, play the helpless female card that get the protective treatment. Case in point, I know several average-to-tall women who can't even change a tire on their car and will spend the whole weekend stuck at home because their guy is out of town. They always end up with guys who have that knight in shining armor mentality. Their guys will worry about them driving, do routine maintenance on their cars, etc. On the other hand, I can, and will, change a tire and/or my oil. The same guys - many whom I consider friends - won't even think to ask me if I need help with my car when they see me showing up on my bike because I couldn't get the car started and AAA was booked for a couple of hours. Just my experience.
IcemanJB Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Can't say I'm any more protective of shorter girls than taller ones. That being said, I've only dated girls my height; one was even an inch taller (I'm 5'6"). It depends on how much I felt for her, if I was super protective or not. I will also agree with the person who said having a partner of the same height DOES make everything "fit" better. Now for holding doors, helping carry things, and things like that...I do that for EVERYONE; male or female. If they're struggling, why not offer a hand?
Els Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Well, as a woman slightly under 5 feet tall, I can't say I've felt more "protected" by any guys. Matter of fact, in most cases I get stuck in the "kid sister" or "little buddy" role. I've found it's the women who, regardless of height, play the helpless female card that get the protective treatment. Case in point, I know several average-to-tall women who can't even change a tire on their car and will spend the whole weekend stuck at home because their guy is out of town. They always end up with guys who have that knight in shining armor mentality. Their guys will worry about them driving, do routine maintenance on their cars, etc. On the other hand, I can, and will, change a tire and/or my oil. The same guys - many whom I consider friends - won't even think to ask me if I need help with my car when they see me showing up on my bike because I couldn't get the car started and AAA was booked for a couple of hours. Just my experience. That's true as well. Also it tends to be the girly-girls who get helped more, in my experience.
norajane Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 to the comments in this thread. I don't know about protectiveness, but the little girls get picked up and twirled around all the time, from what I've seen. At least that's so on The Bachelor. Of course, that could be because the little girls strike out at a dead run into the guys' arms, so if they don't brace themselves and pick her up, she'll end up tackling them and that doesn't look manly. I'm 5'6, btw, so don't know if I have any frame of reference to comment.
Trialbyfire Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 to the comments in this thread. I don't know about protectiveness, but the little girls get picked up and twirled around all the time, from what I've seen. At least that's so on The Bachelor. Of course, that could be because the little girls strike out at a dead run into the guys' arms, so if they don't brace themselves and pick her up, she'll end up tackling them and that doesn't look manly. While I don't have a clue about The Bachelor, we do get thrown around a lot, which can be hawt, in the right atmosphere! :love:
Star Gazer Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I don't know about protectiveness, but the little girls get picked up and twirled around all the time, from what I've seen. At least that's so on The Bachelor. Of course, that could be because the little girls strike out at a dead run into the guys' arms, so if they don't brace themselves and pick her up, she'll end up tackling them and that doesn't look manly. That always makes me laugh! Jillian practically mounts the guys she runs too, like a flying spider monkey; she's like 5'1' and 105, and most of them are 6'+.
Adunaphel Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I have no clue where I got this weird idea, but I suspect that many guys would rather offer to help petite girls because they get the feeling that petite girl=petite effort (expecially when it comes to lifting weigths or other 'manly' tasks). Fools.
Trialbyfire Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I have no clue where I got this weird idea, but I suspect that many guys would rather offer to help petite girls because they get the feeling that petite girl=petite effort (expecially when it comes to lifting weigths or other 'manly' tasks). Fools. Why is this foolish? I know for fact that I can't lift and carry heavy objects or reach objects that are up high. I can accept that limitation of myself and honestly appreciate courteous assistance from a stronger man.
Adunaphel Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Why is this foolish? I know for fact that I can't lift and carry heavy objects or reach objects that are up high. I can accept that limitation of myself and honestly appreciate courteous assistance from a stronger man. It's just that whenever I travel by train I see a lot of guys offering help to petite women who are carrying luggage - it is kind of amusing to see them realize how heavy can suitcases occasionally be. It's sweet, but funny to look at.
Trialbyfire Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 It's just that whenever I travel by train I see a lot of guys offering help to petite women who are carrying luggage - it is kind of amusing to see them realize how heavy can suitcases occasionally be. It's sweet, but funny to look at. That would be ME, once in awhile, for long trips. There was this one time, I almost fell into the baggage carousel, trying to lift my heavy suitcase. This sweet man jumped in quickly, to save the day. It would have been embarrassing to have circled the carousel, sitting on my arse!
norajane Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 It's just that whenever I travel by train I see a lot of guys offering help to petite women who are carrying luggage - it is kind of amusing to see them realize how heavy can suitcases occasionally be. It's sweet, but funny to look at. That happened to me on flights all the time, when I used to travel a lot for business. I always thought it was very nice of them, and very welcome. Interestingly, that happens to me less often on non-business flights, like ones over the weekend. So my conclusion is business traveler guys are more chivalrous than vacationers.
Adunaphel Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 I love it too when I get offered help in similar circumstances... but did you ever witness one of those episodes where the tall guy is absolutely unable to lift the petite girl's luggage?
Trialbyfire Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 No, I've never seen that happen before. She must have been carrying around rocks in her luggage!
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