CARL45 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I know this female teacher who wants to get dreads locks and I also happen to be attracted to her. Well I know I really screwed up on this here's the store. I work in a school with the female teacher . She always has these grand ideas that seems to blow up in her face. Well one of here ideas is to have dread locks, unfortunately she is white and it would look down right ugly on her. Being a opportunist I told her she didn't need to have dread locks because I said she was attractive enough without them. I prepared myself for any answer instead all I got was "ah your so sweet". This seemed to me like a pat answer like said "hello! how are you doing and the other person says fine". So the next day when she brought it up again I said " you don't need them because your already attractive". She snaps back "I not getting them because I want to be more attractive". I amazed I just told a woman she's attractive and it doesn't seem to get through her!!! Somebody help me?
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I'd say that maybe she isn't all that flattered that you're calling her attractive. She brushed off your compliment the first time and you gave it to her again, so she got annoyed. Or maybe she has had people telling her not to do the dreadlock thing and it's annoying her. No telling what's going on in somebody else's head. Could be any number of things. But I didn't find her first response to your comment to be inappropriate. What did you expect her to do? Jump into your arms?
Thaddeus Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I know women like this too. A sincere compliment of, "Hey, you look nice today!" might be answered with a withering glare. I asked a ladyfriend of mine about this once and she said that when a man compliments a woman, the insecure woman will often perceive the compliment as sexual aggression. In short, they read things into the words that really aren't there. It says everything about the woman who barks back a response like that and nothing at all about what the compliment was or how it was delivered. Some people are just naturally caustic. Sounds like she's one of those.
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