maria_patheticsoul Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I met a guy through the internet last October.After a few months he went to work here in my country and we lived together.The actual living in together did not last for a month..he asked me and my daughter to leave his place.I asked him for us to stay because i wanted the relationship to work.He rejected and said he needs sometime for himself alone.I asked him if we are permanently separating he said just for the meantime coz he needed space...so i gave in even though it was so painful for me.I felt so low and degraded and pathetic when i begged him for me to stay.Just today he sent me a txt message accusing me of being bisexual...i find it so lame.Then after a while he appologized...only after he said so many rude words to me.I felt i am so lost...it hurts a lot.I love him so much but i am afraid for the time that he will get used to doing the things he does to me...hurting me.He gave me hope before i left his place and i was a bit happy for that.But since we don't live together anymore i felt it will never be possible....to be with him rest of our lives.I don't have anyone to talk to about this thing...what should i do to completely get over him....i am so tired of crying and begging all because i do love him.I know what i need is to find my solid ground again but i don't know how anymore.
gavinus Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 you need to move on with your life and have some respect for yourself. You were happy before you met him and you will be happy again. If somebody does not want you, let them go and move on, and then you will find somebody who will, good luck
boogieboy Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Only time will help you move on. Time and staying away from him. No calls, no emails, no nothing.
georgia girl Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 It's the hardest thing in the world to hear (read my posts - my ex won't go away!) but you have to let him go. He may be a great guy, but guys in love - real love - don't treat their love badly and that's what he did to you. Maybe if you let him go, he'll realize what he's lost. Maybe, he won't. But in the meantime, you'll have built a whole new happy life for yourself. It will take time and be the hardest thing you've ever done, but you have a little girl whose watching how mommy handles this. Show her that you - and she one day - deserve the right things. ... and if that doesn't work remember that the sexiest thing to a man is a woman who doesn't need him!!
singleforever Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 well I think you should just forget about this guy, he sounds like a total duchbag that does not have any respect for you or your feelings. staying in touch with him will only hurt you even more, and since he already saw that he can treat you like crap and you will put up with it and beg on top of that he will only get worst with time, but hey at least you will not become this [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][COLOR=#800080]http://www.typobounty.com/Funny/Marriage_Women.htm[/COLOR][/sIZE][/FONT] see there is always something positive!
Author maria_patheticsoul Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 well I think you should just forget about this guy, he sounds like a total duchbag that does not have any respect for you or your feelings. staying in touch with him will only hurt you even more, and since he already saw that he can treat you like crap and you will put up with it and beg on top of that he will only get worst with time, but hey at least you will not become this [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][COLOR=#800080]http://www.typobounty.com/Funny/Marriage_Women.htm[/COLOR][/sIZE][/FONT] see there is always something positive! Indeed he is a certified *******. I see it coming that is why he is still having communications with me...but i feel tired now. Time to give it a rest.I gave him the opportunity to take my confidence away from me and i admit it was my fault...i did not thought about myself and i let my self fall for him so hard. Analyzing him only makes me go crazy because i don't see any mistakes that i committed in our relationship.
Author maria_patheticsoul Posted July 22, 2009 Author Posted July 22, 2009 It's the hardest thing in the world to hear (read my posts - my ex won't go away!) but you have to let him go. He may be a great guy, but guys in love - real love - don't treat their love badly and that's what he did to you. Maybe if you let him go, he'll realize what he's lost. Maybe, he won't. But in the meantime, you'll have built a whole new happy life for yourself. It will take time and be the hardest thing you've ever done, but you have a little girl whose watching how mommy handles this. Show her that you - and she one day - deserve the right things. ... and if that doesn't work remember that the sexiest thing to a man is a woman who doesn't need him!! It was so shameful that my little girl is the one who is cheering me up when i should be the one who should be showing bravery. I can not forgive myself for dragging her into my messed up relationship and let her get hurt. She was so proud of him and treated him like a real father then one day he just kicked us out not caring about how it will affect my daughter. I think it will not be hard to get over him now. One by one if i start thinking the bad things he did to me it helps a lot to recover. Now i know he don't deserve me and he is just a waste of my precious time.
georgia girl Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Good for you! You will be just fine. It's sad to be lonely but it's better to be lonely and single, than lonely in a relationship - believe me!!! You sound like you're sad but still a great example for your daughter.
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