imhurt Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 What the hell??? I am just depressed. I came home from work and sat on the computer all day. It has been 8 days since I have talked to him and we decided to end it. Is it normal to think it could be a mistake? I don't think he would respond to me anyway, but really, how can he not? I am not going to contact him, as I have nothing to say. I think he knows I am hurting, unless he really does think I am a cold hearted bitch....which is possible. Is he one too? I just dont get it. I wonder how he feels, if he met someone, if he is just out ****ing anyone, does it matter? I don't know if coming to this site helps or not, but since I found it, I am always on it. Even at work, which is naughty! I am falling behind bad. What if he was the best man for my life? Why won't he contact me? The day before he told me it would never end, then he goes out with his friends and suddenly he agrees it's over? What is that? I hate being depressed, and it seems I will be forever. I have been depressed in the past, and get over it, but it always comes back. Well I am just going on, and I don't care. Reading all these threads makes me realize that it is over for good, and there probably is no chance of getting back together. If I would even want to, I don't know. I went out on a date last weekend, I had fun but I was not interested in this guy at all romatically. He was just really cool. I had a good weekend, then Monday rolls around and I feel pathetic again....AGAIN!! I hate talking about it. I hate thinking about it. I hate being alone. Is he really over it that fast???? Now I want to just call him and act psycho, ufff, something that makes you feel 10x worse, even months later. Why can't my head just reason with my heart? How could he? Do you think he feels bad? We were together 5 years for ****s sake! Maybe he really is a jerk? If I did want him back, how would I go about it?
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 If I did want him back, how would I go about it? Who broke up with who? From reading your post it looks like you did and he agreed,is that the case?
Author imhurt Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Yeah, I brough it up a few times....then he agreed. I was a bit shocked
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Yeah, I brough it up a few times....then he agreed. I was a bit shocked He called your bluff,huh? Really the only thing you can do is SHOW him how you feel if you want him back. That doesn't mean sending a text. You need to talk to him and meet up and express your feelings for why you want to get back together. You have to have your actions SHOW him!! Be aware though, IF he's like me, I was so hurt by the way things went down with my ex that I wanted/want NOTHING to do with her anymore, when she wanted back! She made her bed!
Author imhurt Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Yeah he did. And I really was serious when I said it and knew it would suck. I think he feels like you, so if thats the case, I Should I just leave him be?
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Yeah he did. And I really was serious when I said it and knew it would suck. I think he feels like you, so if thats the case, I Should I just leave him be? Not if you want to know for sure you shouldn't. You should ask for a meet and see where he's at! I was just throwing that out there as a possibility so, you go in with that in mind. Let your feelings be known! IMO
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 yeah my ex said she fell out of love with me and now seems to be interested in another guy but yeah i want her back and she knows how i feel about her so there is really nothing i can do at the moment maybe down the road but i have decide to chill and work on myself deal with things i need to deal with and be happy by myself not really interested in dating i am in love with my ex but she broke up with me so it is on her now....
Author imhurt Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 It's so hard....I hope it all works out for you. I think I should just let it be. But I guess I tomorrow I will feel differently:( It sucks really.
DustySaltus Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I was with someone for 5 years and when we broke up I felt that I would never find anyone again. It was a few weeks before my 25th Birthday and it completely ruined it. I went through a point where I was just angry with all women in general. I wouldn't open myself up. I tried to get back with her a few times but it wasn't the same. I was single for about 2 years after that, and I was having a great time. Then I met someone and became engaged to them, thought she was the love of my life (see that post if you want by me) moved to another country and then broke up after two years. I've been to hell and back and I'm still here...there's no reason for you to sell yourself short either. Just learn from your past relationships and this way you can see what you like and dislike a lot earlier and save yourself time and energy.
Author imhurt Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Well I am thinking about swallowing my pride and just calling him...but if he rejects me, it will set me back again. My days are getting somewhat easier. Sometimes its exciting to be single again, and other times its so scary. It's just scary to think I might be like this for a very long time, or that I might regret it, it seems to be a waste of time to feel like this. It really does suck not knowing what you actually want. I think it would be even worse to think I wanted something that I couldn't have.
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