EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 For the past month or so, I've been going to one gym at my school at least 4 times a week. 2-3 days per week I see one girl working in the fitness center. I'm very very attracted to her! She's tall, athletic, and is very pretty. Now, girls who work at the gym tend to get hit on often since they're usually pretty attractive and there is always a continuous flow of meatheads. Thing is, of all the times I've been in the fitness center and seen this girl, I've hardly seen her talk, nor have I seen guys trying to talk to her. Not sure why that is, but I thought I'd just mention it because I get the impression she could be very shy or even a bit self-conscious (though there's no reason for her to be!). A few months ago I was kinda into a girl at another gym and she constantly had guys around her...and in my opinion she wasn't nearly as pretty as this girl. Anyway, I'd like to say something to her one day. I've never really struck up a conversation with a girl who works at the gym before, though. I've seen her regularly there, so do you think a simple, "Hey, I always notice you working here and just thought I'd say hi." would suffice?
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 "Hey, I always notice you working here and just thought I'd say hi." would suffice? Sounds a bit stalker'ish to me, with the "always notice you". How bout a simple "hi, how's your day going?" and go from there.. Then add a bit more to it every day you see her.
Author EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Sounds a bit stalker'ish to me, with the "always notice you". How bout a simple "hi, how's your day going?" and go from there.. Then add a bit more to it every day you see her. True, but the truth is we're both there a lot, and we both KNOW that we see each other a lot. I mean, she's 10 feet away from me while I'm busy with my workout . It's not like I'm staring at her the entire hour I'm there, just when I come in and go out I give her a nod and smile when she's looking at me. But I see what you're saying. It's best to avoid anything that can be interpreted badly. Something simple like you said should do fine.
Bayern Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 there is always a continuous flow of meatheads Not to mention testosterone... I think it would be fine to approach her. If anything else it's just someone to talk to a bit when at the gym? I mean you're always in the same place so I don't see a problem gaining a friend in the process. I see only one problem. The setting is less than perfect. When I workout I don't want people making idle chit-chat. If she is coming that often she is dedicated and therefore has a routine. If you're going anywhere you're probably going to have to escalate it quickly to talking to her outside of the gym. Just my honest opinion. Plus I've heard (and this is a generalization) that females aren't so crazy about being approached by men when they're all sweaty and nasty. Again, may not be true and it doesn't apply to all, of course.
Author EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 I see only one problem. The setting is less than perfect. When I workout I don't want people making idle chit-chat. If she is coming that often she is dedicated and therefore has a routine. If you're going anywhere you're probably going to have to escalate it quickly to talking to her outside of the gym. Just my honest opinion. Very true, which is why I hardly ever talk with anyone at the gym, because I just want to do my workout. I assume others feel the same. This girl is not working out though. She's an employee there. During the time I'm in the weight room, she pretty much just stands there and reads things, probably waiting for the unlikely chance that some dude put too much weight on the bench press and is being suffocated by the bar. =p
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Not to mention testosterone... I think it would be fine to approach her. If anything else it's just someone to talk to a bit when at the gym? I mean you're always in the same place so I don't see a problem gaining a friend in the process. I see only one problem. The setting is less than perfect. When I workout I don't want people making idle chit-chat. If she is coming that often she is dedicated and therefore has a routine. If you're going anywhere you're probably going to have to escalate it quickly to talking to her outside of the gym. Just my honest opinion. Plus I've heard (and this is a generalization) that females aren't so crazy about being approached by men when they're all sweaty and nasty. Again, may not be true and it doesn't apply to all, of course. My take was she works there?
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 It's best to avoid anything that can be interpreted badly. Something simple like you said should do fine. Yes it is! With the simple opener, you're free to build from it then(if she seems 'game'.. or build it up every time from then on..win/win!
Author EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 My take was she works there? Right. Pretty easy to confuse "working there" with "working out.". It's cool bayern!
Bayern Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 That's what you get for reading too quickly. In that case, you have even more a reason to talk to her. She's probably bored off her ass. Good luck.
kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 A hot girl who works at a gym has a boyfriend 99.9999% of the time. But find out by asking for her number!
Author EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 A hot girl who works at a gym has a boyfriend 99.9999% of the time. Never tell me the odds.
green/eyes Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Just talk to her. You probably don't see other men talking to her because they are assuming she is taken, or they are as intimidated of her as you are. She may find it quite appealing that you have the confidence to approach her. As the others have said make your first approach subtle. What have you got to lose....If it's meant to be it will be.
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 A hot girl who works at a gym has a boyfriend 99.9999% of the time.! at the same time that's what led me to LS? HAHA!! Even with a boyfriend doesn't mean zero chance! Damn! I hate to say that, but it is true! Don't ask for her # right out, feel her out with a couple of convo's first. Likes,dislike's,ect..
Author EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 You probably don't see other men talking to her because they are assuming she is taken, or they are as intimidated. I'm really not that intimidated by her, but instead I'm just a bit confused about how to handle this particular situation. If I thought she was only moderately attractive, I would be asking the same question here. Last year I managed to approach the hottest girl I have ever seen by far because at the time I knew what I was doing and there was a wide open window of opportunity, but I passed over a lot of other opportunities because I wasn't sure how to approach the situation. But anyway, this is the gym we're talking about. You have guys who think they're the ultimate **** because they can pick up a 50 lb weight and put it right back down. I've seen guys act like flies on a piece of **** around girls at the gym, like I one I mentioned in the OP, but not with this girl. at the same time that's what led me to LS? HAHA!! Even with a boyfriend doesn't mean zero chance! Damn! I hate to say that, but it is true! Don't ask for her # right out, feel her out with a couple of convo's first. Likes,dislike's,ect.. Right. First time breaks the ice, so ever time I see her after that I can talk a little bit more and add comfort. Then when I feel it's right, I'll get her number.
NopeNah Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I've found alot of the meatheads at the gym are giant douchbags! They have nothing going for them but their bodies, thats why they work so hard at it. They can get first dates maybe even a second but, most never get past that point.
Author EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 I've found alot of the meatheads at the gym are giant douchbags! They have nothing going for them but their bodies, thats why they work so hard at it. They can get first dates maybe even a second but, most never get past that point. Haha, I'm with ya. I mean, I could be mistaken for a meathead myself probably, but I don't have a vin diesel-wannabe haircut, which is an essential part of the stereotype =p. But yeah, the girls that go out with these guys probably don't have too much going on in their heads either...hence, they're perfect matches for each other! Hot chicks with douchebags!
kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Never tell me the odds. Seemed like you needed me to. In any case, BF or not, I agree with the posters who said that in general, women do not like to be hit on in the gym. I suppose you have an advantage, though, since she works there.
Author EddieN Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Seemed like you needed me to. I wanted to know the best way to approach the situation, not whether I'll succeed or not. Thing is, the odds go to zero anyway if I don't do anything because of my lack of experience with approaching a girl that works at the gym.
Bayern Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I've found alot of the meatheads at the gym are giant douchbags! The gym caters to them too. At least at mine they have a huge mirror you face while lifting. Most sit around with their shirts cut off at the shoulders ,of course, and watch themselves as they lift. As if they're going to get bigger right there in front of the mirror. Sometimes I just want to laugh at them.
green/eyes Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I wanted to know the best way to approach the situation, not whether I'll succeed or not. Thing is, the odds go to zero anyway if I don't do anything because of my lack of experience with approaching a girl that works at the gym. Just work the plan. You are breaking the ice, not asking her out. You could even think of a fitness / wellness type question to ask her like: [you]" excuse me ma'am, what is the best exercise to isolate my traps" [her] "dumbbell shrugs gives you the best range of movement to target the trap" [you] "well I'm *** and your name is" [her] "my name is ***" [you "well thank you for your help ***". This would have a twofold benefit. You would be keeping things in her element / comfort zone as well as breaking the ice and getting her name. It's not hard you just have to be a little creative sometimes.
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