Ex hinted at meeting up, then when i asked him to he ignored me

[Charmaine_Champagne]

i've wrote in other threads about how my ex turned nasty when i started texting him too much and bringing up the relationship and how much he had hurt me ...

 

well another thing is that when my ex and i were casually texting last week he hinted at meeting up afew times saying things like ''when r u gonna take me out a drive'' and ''i've still got ur cd if u want it'' (this was before he turned nasty and told me to go away and not text him again)

 

so i left it afew days and then i asked him when he was gonna give me my cd back and if he fancied meeting up for a drive. (i recently started driving and he asked about it) i really put myself on the line by reaching out to him this way but i thought it was worth the chance and thought he would responding positively since he previously told me he missed me and casually hinted at meeting up sometime.. he ignored me

 

so i sent him a message saying ''its ok if you dont want to, just say, i just thought it would be fun since we got talking the other day''

 

he still ignored me

 

so i wrote ''ok i take it thats a no then?''

 

still ignored me..

 

 

i mean if he didn't want to why did he not just say no?! and why did he hint at it by offering me my cd back? is this a game to see if i'm a doormat still there if he ever wants to pick me up again? i know i prob came across as desperate when he did not respond. but was it some kind of game? why hint at it then when i ask not answer me..

 

he broke up with me btw for those who don't know

 

i know that i am NC now forever, im done with him i have to concentrate on me and moving on,etc but this has been troubling me

 

why would he do this?- lead me on abit and then not answer.. is it just a sick game to see how far he can push me- i reached out to him and it fed his ego?? is he just generally a nasty person?

 

thoughts......

[moo]

CC, you can ask questions until the cows come home and you will never understand why he did these things. I know it's hard, but you just have to accept that he is this way. Suppose he took you back....don't you think it would just be a manner of time before he turns cold and breaks up with you again? This man is a loser. He is a basket of skunk bowel movements. He does not deserve you. You deserve someone who is not going to toy with your feelings. At some point, you just have to accept what he did and stop asking questions, because you will drive yourself crazy with questions. Many of us in this forum have LOTS of questions as to why or exes did what they did and most of us will NEVER get any answers. I'm sorry dear, but you have to suck it up. You are not going to get the answers to your questions and you have to be okay with that. I'll give you an answer and maybe you won't have to ask any more. I think your ex did this because he is a selfish, creep who gets off on having power over you. He cant' make up his mind so he goes back and forth and he doesn't care if it confuses you. He doesn't care if he hurts you. He is doing this stuff because he can.

 

The real question is not why is he doing this. The real question is why are you emotionally holding on to him? I know it's hard...darn hard, but you know you deserve better than this. He did you a favor. Think of what he will put the next girlfriend through and be glad you got out now.

[MagicMan08]

relationships are extremely taxing when they are in positions like this. stay strong....improve your life! i am

[Charmaine_Champagne]

i'm strict NC now and i know that contacting him will not give me any answers or closure anyway because he will be smart with me or nasty or just play with my emotions. its weird tho, i thought i knew this guy 6 years then he just seems to have changed into someone horrible, someone i no longer know

 

he hinted at meeting up and we had civil kinda jokey conversation thru txts, then i think maybe i pushed him too much and he backed off. also i brought up the relationship and how he had hurt me and then he told me to leave him alone. like it was ok if he was bored to check in with me and have texts back and forth but he didn't want to be told how much he'd hurt me or what he did wrong. he also insulted my looks and told me to go away and stop texting him. i just can't help but feel he couldn't have meant the things he said but that he wanted to shock me into going away.

 

tho why hint at meeting up sometime (ok casually hint but still) then when i ask him to do so he just ignores me and then when i push it further he tells me to leave him alone?? it's so cruel. why play with me like that? why even suggest it? it was him who suggested meeting up, he dropped so many hints about me picking him up in the car, etc.. was this just to test me, like fishing to see if i ever would meet with him after how he treated me?