Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Are you saying I should have read the signs of disinterest, and not texted her? The problem there is that I'm not good at reading those signs, and I liked her. But, one sign I can surely see is the text blow-off. Great that YOU could see she wasn't interested, but I couldn't. Now I can. Where's the problem? It's a non-issue.
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 If you only did it once, how do you know how well people generally handle it? Do YOU know many people who will reject someone to their face and have it all go down well? Some lessons we don't need to learn twice, TB.
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Are you saying I should have read the signs of disinterest, and not texted her? The problem there is that I'm not good at reading those signs, and I liked her. But, one sign I can surely see is the text blow-off. Great that YOU could see she wasn't interested, but I couldn't. Now I can. Where's the problem? It's a non-issue. Yes, I am. But you also came her for advice before you contacted her again, and I had already posted I didn't think she was interested. But, you are still relatively young, so recognizing signs is something we learn from experience (unfortunately!). Also, you were directly involved, and it's harder to be objective in that case. We don't look for signs of disinterest, instead, we look for signs of interest. Lastly, women can read women. We know the moves, we know the motives, we know the meaning.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Good points. Live and learn. It's a new day, and I'm employed. (But not for long, if I keep posting at work, like I am now)
tanbark813 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Do YOU know many people who will reject someone to their face and have it all go down well? Yes. I've been rejected directly and not reacted poorly. Personally, I'm much more likely to react poorly when I'm ignored or blown off. Women tend not to react poorly as well when being directly rejected but, to be fair, they probably are less likely to react negatively than men.
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Yes. I've been rejected directly and not reacted poorly. Personally, I'm much more likely to react poorly when I'm ignored or blown off. Women tend not to react poorly as well when being directly rejected but, to be fair, they probably are less likely to react negatively than men. Agreed. When the date ended, and the guy asked me if I would like to get together again, and I told him I enjoyed his company, but didn't think we had chemistry, I thought my honesty would be appreciated. WRONG. Completely blasted me. Up one side, and down the other. It's like this even with online dating, I find. If I ignore a guy, he takes that as non-interest, and goes away. BUT, if I take the time to thank him for the interest, but don't think we'd be a good fit, I get the, "you're not that hot anyway/you think your poo doesn't stink/you're a princess/bimbo/prima donna" response. I just find that *most* people (minus you, TB - lol), say they prefer honesty, but often their egos can't handle the truth.
Scarlett513 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 I had a date that went just like this - he wanted to hang out afterwards, I opted out and there was no kiss. That being said, I was really into him. I decided to end the date because I was worried his version of "hanging out" might be too physically fast for me, and I didn't want to rush things. The kiss just didn't materialize, but did after the second date. All I mean is, don't take those things to heart. She could be really into you but have her own reasons for her actions. Don't jump to conclusions and just see how things go.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Hi Scarlett. She sent me a blow-off text yesterday, and she acts like a princess, so thanks, but this thing is dooone.
bac Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 you are worry about wrong things. All that you worry does not matter at all. I hope that you also think about important stuff as well.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 I don't understand your English. No offense.
bac Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 but i hope you understand girls' way of thinking. that is why you are good at getting laid.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 I'm not good at getting laid. Thanks for writing.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Dude... c'mon. None. Wanna ask me how big my dick is?
WineCountry Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Horrible advice! Kizik - a hug good night for a first date is VERY appropriate. Most women don't like guys to get too pushy with the physical too soon. And not getting a kiss on a first date is NOT a sign of disinterest from a woman. . Listen to Jilly Bean....she speaks the truth.
WineCountry Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Oops..my bad. I see that things turned to sh*t. Oh well. On to the next one.
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Wanna ask me how big my dick is? Actually, yes. But that's only because I am into sexual anthropology... And to BAC - since when is dating not something worthy of worry? If people didn't fret over dating, then there would be no LS, and what would 800 people do for an addiction?
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 OK, fine. Six AND thick. There you have it. What is it they say about short guys?
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 OK, fine. Six AND thick. There you have it. What is it they say about short guys? After that revelation, I don't care what they say about short guys. In fact, I don't even remember the question.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Just know you've made me embarrass myself for the day!
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