Author kizik Posted July 20, 2009 Author Posted July 20, 2009 FYI I wasn't making fun of your age. But since you started it - "Hey, old man, who let you off the buggy? Aren't you supposed to be blacksmithing in some 18th-century New England hamlet?"
Thaddeus Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 No insult taken. I was just confirming - in a moderately humorous style (trying to, anyway) - that you were correct in your assumption about my age. I still think it would be cool to see semaphore make a comeback though.
alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Perhaps semaphore might make a comeback. i never liked semaphore...too salty. anyways kizik, just give her a call already and get it over with, jeez the suspension is killing me
Author kizik Posted July 20, 2009 Author Posted July 20, 2009 But dude, you said wait. So I'm waiting. At least till tomorrow.
northstar1 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 But dude, you said wait. So I'm waiting. At least till tomorrow. Dude, just pick up the phone and give her a ring. best things are spontaneous. It's been a few days since your date, so all is good to call.
alphamale Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 But dude, you said wait. So I'm waiting. At least till tomorrow. ok :laugh:
northstar1 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Nooo, the date was last night, North. Damn son, I can't keep up with your dates anymore. Yeah, give her a call tomorrow.
Author kizik Posted July 20, 2009 Author Posted July 20, 2009 Damn son, I can't keep up with your dates anymore. Ha! We've come quite a ways since a year ago, eh buddy?
northstar1 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Ha! We've come quite a ways since a year ago, eh buddy? Absolutely. Night and day.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 OK well, I texted her earlier today and she replied a million hours later, saying something about how she was going up to Seattle this weekend. Luckily, I am keen enough to recognize a blow-off when I'm dealt one ! So I won't be calling her again. Thanks to everyone who joined in on these points - one of which is that twenty is toooo young, and other things that surely have to do with my game or lack thereof. (Maybe I'll make a thread on that some day.) And please don't tell me I blew my chance by texting her today, because that's not the case. I texted her on a Friday night and y'all said I was stupid, too, but it got me that date. -kiz
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Luckily, I am keen enough to recognize a blow-off when I'm dealt one ! Not really, as I said earlier today that I felt she was blowing you off. Chicks know chicks... But, I guess now you feel like you have total closure, so that's a good thing. Though next time, I would say that when a chick behaves as she did on the date, then take that as your blow off, and don't bother with the follow-up. Hopefully the other date will go well this week.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Thanks Jilly! And for the record, just b/c you recognized it was blow off, does not mean I didn't still wanna go out with her
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 You know, the strange thing is, I'm not dense (not that you said that!). I thought it went well - we talked easily for a long time - but she probably "just wasn't into me".
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 You know, the strange thing is, I'm not dense (not that you said that!). I thought it went well - we talked easily for a long time - but she probably "just wasn't into me". It happens. ALL THE TIME. To a LOT of people. Thing is, you can't take it personally. You really can't. Maybe next time, try women a little closer to your age. I honestly feel that dating a 20-year old would have gotten old, the first time she wanted you to go to a kegger.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Don't worry, I don't feel special for getting rejected. And thanks, I don't take it personally. Sure, 20's too young, but in regards to the kegger, she didn't really seem like that type... who knows...
tanbark813 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Though next time, I would say that when a chick behaves as she did on the date, then take that as your blow off, and don't bother with the follow-up. This is getting on a tangent but I disagree with this for two reasons: 1. The follow-up verifies that it really was a blow-off. Better to follow up and have it be a blow off than to give up early and have it be a misconception. 2. People do the blow-off because they don't have the balls to be straightforward. The more they're called on it the more likely they are to be more up front.
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Yeah, I can certainly tell you that knowing you're getting blown off is better than the alternative of just kinda hanging out and waiting for a reply. At least hers was clear enough to realize that, you know... forget her.
carhill Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 20 year olds can be flaky. Be prepared for a return engagement. She knows you were interested because you asked her out on two dates and did a follow-up. Young ladies love their male validation
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Hi carhill. I guess I woudn't mind a return engagement, but I'd make her come to my part of town.
carhill Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Yes, and, gauging the parameters of that engagement, be sure to do something which annoys her, while still remaining a perfect gentleman. Women love to be annoyed. She'll tell all her friends what an azzhole you are and maybe they'll want to hook up with you
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 Ha! I'm sure you're right. I need to be more annoying w/ the chicas I like (think grade school). Thanks.
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 This is getting on a tangent but I disagree with this for two reasons: 1. The follow-up verifies that it really was a blow-off. Better to follow up and have it be a blow off than to give up early and have it be a misconception. 2. People do the blow-off because they don't have the balls to be straightforward. The more they're called on it the more likely they are to be more up front. And I disagree for two reasons. lol 1 - the follow-up verifying the blow-off only verified what I called initially. It was obvious to me that she wasn't interested on the date, and therefore, were it me, there would BE no need for a follow-up at all. It was already clear, and no need to prolong it or put yourself out there a second time... 2 - While it's a nice fantasy of how people should behave, VERY VERY people will reject someone to their face. I did it once, and got blasted for it (so never again!). Most people don't handle rejection well in any form, let alone to be looked in the eye and told, "no thanks!"
tanbark813 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 2 - While it's a nice fantasy of how people should behave, VERY VERY people will reject someone to their face. I did it once, and got blasted for it (so never again!). Most people don't handle rejection well in any form, let alone to be looked in the eye and told, "no thanks!" If you only did it once, how do you know how well people generally handle it?
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