whodey115 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Hello all, Its been I 8 months since I broke up with my ex, and after dealing with everything that I had to deal with, I am ready to try to make it work again. I broke up with her, and am trying to get her back. Well I finally talked to her, and she said that she is in love with someone else now. Little background, we were together for 6 years and were looking at engagement rings(im 22) a month before I broke up with her. She said she has been dating this guy for 2 months. What do you guys think is the best way to handle this situation. I think that she is in a rebound relationship, simply because I find it hard for her to fall in "love"(it took us like a year to use the L word) with someone so quickly after us being so serious. What say you? Do I try and let this play out and see what happens? Practice NC? Any thoughts would be helpful.
Author whodey115 Posted July 20, 2009 Author Posted July 20, 2009 ahh I need to edit it...she has been with him for now 6 mo and started dating him 2 months after we broke up.
LakesideDream Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Who, it's time to let it go. She's obviously moved on or is trying to. Respect her wishes and send her good luck. Maybe, years in the future you may get another chance. Maybe not. It's a timeless ritual. She doesen't want you any more. Let it go.
bluewolf17 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Hi, I think it's great that you are at a place where you think you might want to try with her again. You do have to consider that because you ended the relationship that left her (and you) wide open to date other people. It sounds like she has found someone, and if it has been 6 months than it may not be a rebound. I am not sure what you can do. You didn't really say how much contact you have had with her.. If she's with someone else, then let her be. Accept that she may find it easier to stay with her current partner who hasn't dumped her. I know how it feels to change your mind once you break up with someone. I would suggest if you have told her how you feel, that all you have to do. Step away now. Don't expect her to come back. If she does, then great! If not, you have to move on. Don't wait around on this one. Yes or no, then go.
sedgwick Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Honestly, once you dump someone, you have to view it as forever. You're telling them, in essence, that they're not good enough to be in your life anymore, and that's a VERY hurtful thing to process. When you gave her up, you made your choice, and unfortunately you have to live with it! You need to let her get on with her life -- she deserves to be with someone who loves her through thick and thin, not someone who bails when the going gets rough.
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