hotgurl Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I always thought the who biological clock thing was an urban legend. But I think mine started ticking? I assumed since I already had a kid it wouldn't start but I just got married and am turning 31 and now I am thinking hmmmm babies... I don't like it.
Pyro Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Just turned 28 and get the feeling every now and then.
CM2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 you know what im bout to hit 28 possibly getting divorced and now I really feel that mines tickin a lil bit to but check this out, im a male and im feelin this way. I guess I want to have a child by im 30 but its crazy for me to feel this way....
GorillaTheater Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I thought my wife's clock would NEVER stop ticking. I think I'm in the clear now, but still a little wary.
Star Gazer Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Mine is a faint tick. The sort of, "Do I hear a bomb ticking in the corner?" sound that makes my ears perk up, but then if I listen hard enough, I can't hear anything.
Sam Spade Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I'm a little schisophrenic on this one. I'm 32, and a (large) part of me really wants to wants to go all out and be an awesome old school father pretty soon - I really like kids, and looking forward to building trains and towers etc. with my son.. (Smaller) part of me however asks am I an effin idiot to (willfully) enslave myself for a quarter of a century to a bunch of noisy brats and fattening wife, instead of pursuing my lifelong dreams of crossing the Atlantic in a sailboat, joining the foreign legion, and becoming a bush pilot in Latin America:mad:? So I guess my clock isn't ticking that strong yet. In any case, even if it does, letting it show is a huge turn off, no matter if you're a man or a woman (inevitably makes other people feel used). I also suspect that this is one of the reasons why dating in the 30s is so jaded --> people tend to assume that the other people are looking to "settle down" and nobody likes that pressure...
GorillaTheater Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 joining the foreign legion You've only got eight more years, better get steppin'.
Thornton Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 My clock is definitely ticking! It started to tick very quietly when I was about 25, but it's getting louder and louder now I'm approaching 30. I'm still unmarried, not a home owner, and busy building my career, so there's no chance of having kids any time soon I think in today's world responsible people are simply unable to scrape together the resources to have a child at a young age, particularly given the price of property and the emphasis on women having a career before motherhood, and also the trend for getting married later in life which makes many men unwilling to commit to having a family at a young age. It doesn't help that pretty much everyone else I know has had them already, and to add insult to injury my 19yo sister is having one too
Citizen Erased Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I'm only 21 and I get it every now and then. Thankfully I have enough that I need to do before I'm at that point that I can shut it up for another 5, 10 years. Although Pyro, I'm more than willing... Hotgurl, is it a very insistent need? Would your hubby be on board?
Sam Spade Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I think in today's world responsible people are simply unable to scrape together the resources to have a child at a young age, particularly given the price of property and the emphasis on women having a career before motherhood, Getting one's career in order before kids i wholehartedly agree with; waiting to have a home before having kids however is just plain silly, IMO, and probably uniquelly american phenomenon (invented by the banks, eh:laugh:?). You can rent the exact same house that you'd be slaving away to pay off for less money and with less hassle , and I betcha 100$ that the baby won't care
asireen Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 The clock starts ticking louder with age. The chances of having normal, healthy children are much higher at a young age, for both parents. After 40, the chances of having a child with a disability (eg. Down's syndrome, etc.) or a complicated pregnancy increases exponentially.
HsMomma Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 (Smaller) part of me however asks am I an effin idiot to (willfully) enslave myself for a quarter of a century to a bunch of noisy brats and fattening wife, instead of pursuing my lifelong dreams of crossing the Atlantic in a sailboat, joining the foreign legion, and becoming a bush pilot in Latin America:mad:? My suggestion is RUN, not walk...go, be free, cross the Atlantic, join the foreign legion and go to be a bush pilot, 'cause I promise you, once you get married & start a family, if you refer to your children as "noisy brats" and your wife as "fattening," you won't live long enough to even think about pursuing those dreams!
Phateless Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I'm ticking too. My gf has a 4 year old brother and whenever we go hang out with him I keep thinking "somday...." I'm nowhere near ready yet but I'm finding myself worrying about "what if it doesn't happen?"
BlackWhite Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 you know what im bout to hit 28 possibly getting divorced and now I really feel that mines tickin a lil bit to but check this out, im a male and im feelin this way. I guess I want to have a child by im 30 but its crazy for me to feel this way.... A male's clock doesn't start ticking untill around 60 and most males can have perfectly healthy kids even at age 50.
Sam Spade Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 My suggestion is RUN, not walk...go, be free, cross the Atlantic, join the foreign legion and go to be a bush pilot, 'cause I promise you, once you get married & start a family, if you refer to your children as "noisy brats" and your wife as "fattening," you won't live long enough to even think about pursuing those dreams! I think i found a solution: get married now, and then join the national guard in my state . Won't see quite as much action, but I guess will relieve the itch a bit .
angie2443 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 A male's clock doesn't start ticking untill around 60 and most males can have perfectly healthy kids even at age 50. Sorry, you're wrong. There is Too much evidance out now that sais otherwise. For both men and men, it is best to have children before 40.
Pyro Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Although Pyro, I'm more than willing... A Latino Crocodile Dundee or Australian Cheech Martin. We'd make beautiful babies.
Author hotgurl Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 hotgurl, you need to get with my fiance! ha ha. stupid clock.
Author hotgurl Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 I'm only 21 and I get it every now and then. Thankfully I have enough that I need to do before I'm at that point that I can shut it up for another 5, 10 years. Although Pyro, I'm more than willing... Hotgurl, is it a very insistent need? Would your hubby be on board? we talked a lot about kids before marriage. and we decided not to have any. I already have one and she is 14 so huge age gap there. Plus there are complcations health wisw. I was/am totally ok with not having any more kids. It is why this sudden ticking surprised the hell out of me.
CM2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 A male's clock doesn't start ticking untill around 60 and most males can have perfectly healthy kids even at age 50. But I do want to have a child before I hit 30
laRubiaBonita Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 mine goes in waves- right now it's ticking pretty loud. but also my H and i are just coming up to out 1 yr. anniversary and i have always wanted to be married a few years before kids took over our lives. i worry though, i really think it will take a miracle for me to conceive naturally and without "trying"....... i am 30, so i do not want to wait too much longer- but at the same time, i do.
Els Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Well that's reassuring. I thought mine would never come since every female I know is going ga-ga over random babies by now.
Els Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 A male's clock doesn't start ticking untill around 60 and most males can have perfectly healthy kids even at age 50. That's unfounded BS. The father's age matters equally much where genetic defects are concerned. It's just that the woman's age is considered to matter 'more' because in addition to genetic defects, it increases the risk of problems during pregnancy and labour.
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