lucy9216 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 The guy I met on a online site about 6 weeks ago, he originally made contact with me every 3 days. After a few weeks he did start to get a little flaky saying I will talk to you tomorrow and not call back tomorrow but we had not met yet. This did irritate me a little but when we did talk I could definatly tell he was interested and I can definatly see that you do not need to contact someone you are just meeting everyday that would be weird anyways but why couldn't he just say hey talk to you later or whatever. Anyways we met and we had a lot of good things in common alot of the same interests, I am afraid I may have been a little nervous this being my first date since my ex and I split after 6 years but all in all I thought it went really well. He even said he wanted to see me again he asked for me to call him but I also said well you can call me too. A week went by no word, I did check his online account and it showed that he had been inactive since we met, so I thought maybe I should just contact him. I sent him a text saying hi, he responded by saying hi hot stuff how are you and he was asking me how my weekend was and he told me how his was and being very conversational. Then I told him that I had a great time last weekend he said he had a great time too and we should do it again soon, I responded with yes we should and then he said yes again. So I said well you know when I am available, no response so an hour later I sent one more saying when are you available and still nothing this was 5 days ago. It was brought up to me that he may not have received my messages because this has happened before and I checked his account when I logged in today and his account shows that he still hasn't logged in? maybe he is talking to someone else? or should I make one more attempt? It just doesent add up the flirting and asking to see me again? not using his account? and then nothing? in person he did seem a little like the shy or unsure type that would not really make the first move with any girl this was just my own observation.
green/eyes Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 If he is interested trust me he will contact you. There are so many plausible reasons that would explain the lack of response. Some reasons would be in your favor and others would not. Regardless, don't sweat it. If it's meant to be it will be. Oh yeah, don't try and contact him anymore. I know that may seem hard because I can tell you may have a void you so desperately want to fill, and you probably feel lonely from time to time. How long have you been out of the past relationship? Unless you are in a relationship with someone the multiple attempts to contact without a reply will make you seem desperate. Remember a little hard to get will go a long way if he is indeed interested.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 21, 2009 Author Posted July 21, 2009 I have been out of my previous relationship for only 4 months now, so it is not really that I am desperate or lonely yet. I only made one attempt to contact him on my own after we met and that was one week afterwards. I don't think I have come off as desperate yet, he seemed very enthusiastic and excited to meet me and it seemed like he enjoyed meeting me as well. I know I only met him once, we did talk for 6 weeks, I know I don't really know him but yeah I am a little bummed I haven't heard from him yet. We did have alot in common that I would not find in most guys out there for myself, he does really love kids I could see that sincerity in him with talking to him and meeting him. He has a son and I have two girls, we both love going to disneyland not alot of people like that place the way we do, his physical apperance is very unique and I definatley dig that I am not really into the normal trendy looking guys and there were other things too. So yes of course I was a bit bummed because these are qualities that I found in him that for me have been difficult to find but I am pretty sure now that I wont hear from him and I am afraid it is because that yes I was really nervous when meeting him and I feeel like I didn't act completely like myself because of my nerves and that does suck because there could have been potential if I had just been a little more comfortable and calmed my nerves a bit. Ah well, this is the dating world right? very confusing?
redant Posted July 21, 2009 Posted July 21, 2009 Yes it is. You win some and you lose some. Don't feel bad there will be a new one around the corner. Have fun think of it as meeting new people possibly friends.
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