Dancer87 Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Ok so my (ex) boyfriend as of right now have been dating for over 2 years...we jumped into things really quick told eachother that we loved one another only after a month..everything was great for about the first year (ya know honeymoon stage)...then right before last summer he dumped me and started making out with this one girl all summer...then towards the end of july we started talking again and he took me out for my birthday and we ended up getting back together...then what do you know...this summer rolls around and we break up again...didnt really give me an explaination just said that he was depressed blah blah blah...excuses excuses... well before that i should explain that i would get very very frustrated with him...he would go out with his friends and not call me all night until the next morning (and its hard for us to see eachother because we live about an hour apart)...when i asked him why he wouldnt call me and why he still did it when he knew it made me upset...all he had to say was sorry and that he loved me blahhhh blahhh... so this time we broke up we never really stopped talking...he still tells me he loves me but we dont see eachother..havent in about a month and a half...i know i look so stupid talking to him again and even considering going back out with him after the way he treats me but i cant help it... heres a little more background to go along with what i mean when i say he treats me bad...the middle of june i had an event that he promised me he would come to because i was running it...well the event went all night long so he really couldnt use his excuse of he was doing homework because he could have showed up at 3 am and it still would have been going on...but thats what he told me earlier on in the night he was doing homework and when he was done he would call me...well about 10 oclock rolls around...no answer...call his house...find out he went out with his friends instead of coming to my event which he knew meant a lot to me...and of course when i found this out i was livid...i sent him some pretty mean texts threatening to break up with him...and then he proceeded to use them against me the next day and blame those texts for why he didnt show ha! he said cause i was threatening to break up with him why would he show up...but he was already out with his friends at that point so what he was saying wasnt even vaild! i dont know...i love the kid...i think he is just very immature and in college still...but i mean he is 22 years old...its time to grow up...basically what i am saying is...do you think i should keep sticking around..waiting for him to change...because despit what everyone else says...i think we are meant for eachother (cheesy i know) but i really do...ahhh helpppppppp.
Exit Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Him changing is not dependent on you waiting for him. What I mean by that, is you should get him out of your mind, move on, enjoy life without his inconsiderate actions for a while, and meanwhile if he comes to the realization that he lost a great partner, he will contact you. No reason for you to wait and suffer. It's a win/win, you can forget about him and start moving on, and if he changes, he'll come back. If he doesn't, you'll already be healing.
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