Ayla Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 I have not been on here for about a month now, I found that talking about my break-up all the time was holding me back a little. My ex bf broke up with me 4 months ago - very suddenly and without warning 4 months ago (I will still stand by this and that we were happy). We were living overseas together and I moved back to my home country a week after we broke up. 3 days after breaking up he slept with someone else - just sex. But it hurt so much at the time...still does. When i got back home, i went to a counsellor and talked to a few people who knew both of us. He is a 37 year old committment phobe (text book), and nothing I could have said or done would have changed the outcome. Fast forward to now.... Since we broke up i have contacted him a total of 5 times. The last time was last week when he deleted me off FB (the day of my grandmothers funeral which he knew about) and had to ask him again to send my stuff back to me. The email was not rude, quite neutral and short. The reply I got was cold and mean from beginning to end... "I left all your stuff out this week for Cecile (the cleaner) to post but she only took the letters for some reason and not the business cards or scrapbook, so they will come later. I have my reasons for not contacting you and I don't wish to have to explain them. And I can't see needing to contact you further, so probably best you don't expect that I will." I was gobsmacked and at the time, very upset. Questions were running through my head...what did I do to deserve that? How could he be so cold? Does he hate me now? etc etc. it was not as if I had bombarded him with emails and phonecalls. 5 times in 4 months is not much at all - given how much he meant to me and how out of the blue the break up was! Anyways - now I am of a different mind set. If he can not get over himself, or the situation..and continue to be a a**h**e and not even be civil. He does not deserve anymore tears from me. It is like a weight has been lifed off my shoulders. It is his loss, and one day he will regret the way he treated me. I loved him to bits, and loved being with him, i was a great gf..and did not deserve how he treated me from the start of the break up. I just wanted to share this with you - I feel more free. Onwards and upwards for me - I will meet someone who will treat me with the respect that i deserve and who will appreciate me and what i can brin g to a relationship. xx
Author Ayla Posted July 20, 2009 Author Posted July 20, 2009 I forgot to add that since we had broken up - I had not heard from him at all...
LovesHangover Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Sorry to read that, but some people lacj social development. You are correct in that he will regret how he treated you one day. Karma! Best of luck to you sweetheart. You are fabulous!
mark982 Posted July 22, 2009 Posted July 22, 2009 i'm sorry he's being such a azzhole.best to just move on w/ your life and let him suffer in his.
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