Lauriebell82 Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I'm confused. Last week I was making plans for this weekend with my friend from work. I told her about this really nice outdoor bar. I asked her (which took a ton of courage on my part) if she would like to go on a double date with her boyfriend and us. She told me she would let me know on Friday whether she could come. So Friday comes, she told me she asked her boyfriend and he said "not yet." and she told me she would call me on Saturday when they decided what to do. No phone call of course. Oh yeah, on Friday night my friend (one of my bridesmaids) made plans with my fiance and I to go out to dinner and then rent and movie and have some drinks at our apartment. An hour before we were supposed to meet she sends me a text and tells me she fell asleep and decided to stay in bed. WTF? Fiance plays paintball Saturday afternoon and goes out to dinner with his friend. What do I do? Nothing. Is it me? Do people just like to blow me off?
Thaddeus Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Just an odd confluence of circumstances. It is, however, more than a little flaky for your supposed friend to commit to getting in touch with you and not following through. That would pi$$ me off.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 Just an odd confluence of circumstances. It is, however, more than a little flaky for your supposed friend to commit to getting in touch with you and not following through. That would pi$$ me off. Yeah. My other friend who blew me off is even more flaky. She does that stuff CONSTANTLY. And it's annoying that SHE is the one who asks me to hang out then backs out at the last FRIGGIN minute! Like literally like an hour or half hour beforehand. Sometimes I think it's a little suspicious, she is an addict, recovering one, she was addicted to oxycontin about 5 years ago. It's quite possible she is just making excuses or blowing me off bc a better offer came up. Addicts lie like crazy.
Sweetcheripie Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 And you chose this person to be one of your bridesmaids?
Thaddeus Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 And you chose this person to be one of your bridesmaids? I gotta admit, I wondered about this too...
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 And you chose this person to be one of your bridesmaids? Well, the weird thing is that whenever it's wedding related (looking at dresses, venues, churches, ect. she is ALWAYS there ready to help. She also did that for the other wedding she was in. It's like hit or miss with her, she will follow through with plans sometimes, sometimes she won't. I don't know what her deal is. (when it's just "hanging out."
Thaddeus Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I don't know what her deal is. Yes, you do. You already mentioned it. She's an addict (albeit recovering, apparently). She's probably also a believer in that old lie, "It's my prerogative to change my mind," which simply means that she's telling you up-front that she's unreliable and you can't count on her. Perhaps I'm judging too harshly though. I just hate it when people use that "prerogative" bullsh*t, which suddenly makes it OK to back out of stuff they've already agreed to. Hate that.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 Yes, you do. You already mentioned it. She's an addict (albeit recovering, apparently). She's probably also a believer in that old lie, "It's my prerogative to change my mind," which simply means that she's telling you up-front that she's unreliable and you can't count on her. Perhaps I'm judging too harshly though. I just hate it when people use that "prerogative" bullsh*t, which suddenly makes it OK to back out of stuff they've already agreed to. Hate that. Yeah, I do know what her deal is. I can't even believe some of the things this girl comes up with though, she is either sleeping or sick or something. I'd like to trust her but I'm really just sick of hearing the excuses. I feel like saying "okay you are tired, well you know what get your a$$ out of bed because we made plans!" Grrr, it really is annoying.
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