fender17 Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 ok, so long story short I met someone who was cute we went on about 7 dates and had sex and so fourth, now for some reason I asked her to the beach tuesday night and she was like sure, then she said she felt in a weird mood and bailed, she didn't i.m me that much as before and she lost her phone for a bit now so we talk through facebook, anyways I felt bad cause we had a phone conversation and she said that she felt she was disposable to me and that I could move on, I assured her I wasnt. I shower up at her work with a rose and gave it to her, but her boss was there and it was too weird to talk. I sent her a message asking about dinner and she wrote " I have to work tomorrow 12-7 but after I am available :)" I said sure call me when your out and well met, she replied after I got dressed and got ready to go meet her and said " Hey sorry but I cant make it tonight, one of the coworkers offered to get me a vip ticket to a concert and I HAVE TO GO TO IT", I replied saying no worries I dont mind getting dressed and making reservations for nothing, she replied saying "Sorry? I got offered to go last min", I just wrote no worries I hope you find what your looking for and you dont want to be with someone like me anyways and ended convo and deleted her off facebook, sorry for the long story but any advice, or what you think would be great. thanks
whichwayisup Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I wouldn't write her off because she got a VIP invite at the last minute. I kind of understand that seeing as I'm a huge hockey fan and if someone handed me hockey playoff tickets, I wouldn't say no. But, I WOULD go out of my way to make it up to the guy, pay for the next date and take him somewhere special. Bottomline, do you "like" her? If so, then be honest and tell her it hurt your feelings, instead of being passive and trying to make her feel bad for choosing to go to the concert. By saying those digging comments: I replied saying no worries I dont mind getting dressed and making reservations for nothing, isn't that mature. And this: I just wrote no worries I hope you find what your looking for and you dont want to be with someone like me anyways and ended convo and deleted her off facebook, again, totally passive and playing the victim. You neglected to see the positives: I have to work tomorrow 12-7 but after I am available *She is letting you know she had to work but IS available. If she wasn't interested or was playing a game with you, she wouldn't have offered to tell you she was available afterwards.. You didn't give her a chance to make it up to you, instead you got pissed off and fluffed her off. If you want to see her again, call and tell her you're sorry for reacting the way you did, that you handled the situation wrong, see if she'll go out with you again.
Thaddeus Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I'm with WWIU. Your reaction was over-the-top and somewhat rude. Give her a day or so, then call her and apologize. Frankly, though, I suspect that she won't be open to seeing you again after your outburst.
Author fender17 Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 i agree, the reason why I was also mad was because we talked on the phone and stuff, but its been about a week since I actually had a chance to see her and talk to her about it, I was very pissed off because I wore a nice outfit and got all dressed up to get a message of her declining, also to think positive I had a graduation party I was gonna skip to see her but ended up going, and asked a girl to dinner and she agreed so not too bad?, but I have been kinda attached to the other girl and I removed her off facebook and just want her to come and talk to me, I feel I might have came on to strong but not to sound like an ass but I was like 50/50 with this girl, and shes o.k and I know I could do better but either way I was mad at what she did
Author fender17 Posted July 19, 2009 Author Posted July 19, 2009 I told her I dont set myself up with negativity and I am an emotional guy, I went through a wierd phase when my ex and I broke it off, and now I make sure nothing wierd happens if so I end it early so I dont get too attached.
tkgirl Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I told her I dont set myself up with negativity and I am an emotional guy, I went through a wierd phase when my ex and I broke it off, and now I make sure nothing wierd happens if so I end it early so I dont get too attached. By weird you mean someone actually starts having real feelings for someone? yea, um... that may feel like it works for you now, but it's not fair to you or the girl you decide to date.. one of you will start having feelings. If it's you, then you end it and then... you're alone and probably pretty bummed. If it's her, then you go along for the ride for a while but she'll catch on soon and then.. yep you're alone again. Life just doesn't work that way.. IMO.
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