jqb05443 Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 I have posted here in the past but just an update on my story. Little background. Was with my ex for 3.5 years. He broke up with me in April. After break up we still hung out a little here and there until I started pressuring him to get back together. He said he wasn't ready yet and told me that we both needed to move on. I sent him a few texts after he said we needed to move on and he never responded. Feeling like I needed to be rejected one more time I sent him a text a few days later asking him to go see a Broadway show 1 month in advance and I was expecting him to ignore my text or to say no I told you we needed to move on. He actually responded that he would go with me and I then went very LC for a month until the show which was yesterday. I did text him last week to make sure he didn't forget or change his mind and told him that I could get someone else since a month had passed with NC and 6 weeks since we had seen each other last and he said NO i am going. So after much anticipation yesteday finally came and we went to see a Broadway show and had dinner afterwards. It was weird when I initally saw him as it had been 6 weeks since we seen eachother last. He just started talking to me as if we never stopped talking. He was just catching me up on his life and I on mine and we had a very good time during the show and dinner. Of course I was going into this hoping it could be the start of us again. After the show we went back to his place and we talked and went for ices and got a movie to rent. He actually ended up inviting me to go to Atlantic City with him in 2 weeks for a couple of days so I was surprised by that. Happy of course as I want to get back together. When I left his place he booked the hotel while I was there and before I left he gave me a kiss on the lips and said he would call me. I don't know what's going to happen but I left feeling good. Did he say he wanted to get back together NO but we didn't discuss that. We were just enjoying eachother. I don't want to get my hopes up but just wanted to give you guys an update.
Author jqb05443 Posted July 20, 2009 Author Posted July 20, 2009 And now I feel myself going crazy again. I left his house this afternoon and he told me as I said in my post "He would call me" never said when he would call. I didn't really expect him to call me tonight but I was hoping that he would. Its 11pm now..and of course he never called and I am disappointed. Am I expecting to much to soon? We are going to AC in two weeks and he told me he has a bachelor party to go to this coming weekend. That's why we are going in 2 weeks. I have to admit I am hurt as I love him so much and have cried everyday since we broke up 3 months ago. I am glad things seemed to go well and I went into our date saying thing will either go well and it could be the start of us again OR it will be the last time we see each other. Is it a good sign that he invited me to go to AC for a few days? Am I expecting to much to soon?
loveshy Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 He told you that he would call because he wanted to keep you lingering over him.. You will keep thinking he would call but he wont.
SweetyBear Posted July 20, 2009 Posted July 20, 2009 Thanks for the update. I'm glad the show and dinner went well. Of course you want him to call...it's only natural. The only thing I'd say is you waited 6 weeks to see him, so wait for him to call and see what happens. I don't think anybody can predict his motivation or what he's going to do. Sit tight and just know you will be absolutely fabulous either way, whether he calls or doesn't or whether you go away with him or don't. I wonder if you really want to make a go of a second chance, though, if it's too soon to go away for the weekend with him. I'm definitely not an expert, but a lot of people have given me the advice to try to treat the relationship like it's in the beginning stages again rather than jump back in with both feet when you're dealing with a reconciliation. You said you didn't really talk about getting back together, which is fine, but I'd wonder why he's so quick to invite you on a weekend, yet not so quick to give you a call. Maybe I'm old-fashioned.
LovesHangover Posted July 23, 2009 Posted July 23, 2009 Moment by moment! Live and enjoy each moment. Enjoy your life regarless of the circumstances. Being intentional is empowering and will lead you to take powerful actions you would not take expecting. Expectation is disempowering and has you at the mercy of circumstances and the actions of others. Whatever happens, stay empowered and choose a way of being that will aid you in fulfilling your intentions. I wish you the best! - LovesHangover
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