Should I stay or move on?

[lollipop01]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for awhile, and we see each other EVERY day. The only time we dont see each other is when he is at work. Well He tells me that we need to take a "break" he is not breaking up with me. He said there is no other girl involved and there wont be. He just thinks that we need to take some time off from each other. He says he is trying to help us so we wont break up later on. He also says that everything will be okay soon he is just confused and he wants to spend some time with his friends. Which is weird because I am the one that tells him to go hang out with them, but then he says he wants to spend time with me. I have never told him he couldn't hang out with his friends, and I would never.

 

I asked him if we were together and he said IDK I just want you to understand that we will be together soon. And he kept saying he loves me so much..... I don't understand!!

 

Is he breaking up with me and trying really hard not to hurt me?

or does he actually want a break?

I need some opinoins.

[Thaddeus]

Seeing each other every day is probably too much. He does have a life outside of your relationship and is probably feeling smothered.

 

When he says that he needs a break, it doesn't sound like the typical "let's take a break" routine, it just sounds like he says: He needs some time to spend with his social circle.

 

Nothing at all wrong with that.

 

Give him the gift of missing you for a while. I don't mean full-blown NC, just back off a bit so you aren't in each other's faces all the time.

 

You should take time with your friends too.

[Vicious_Delicious]

I agree, with Thaddeus.

 

He's just afraid that you guys are spending way too much time together and doesn't want to feel smothered or smother you.

 

He just wants to spend time with friends is all.

 

Just keep an eye on how he communicates with you over the next few days. See if he contacts you every now and then and is courteous when you contact him, just don't contact him too much. You back off and he'll come to you when he's caught up with his buddies.

 

However, you shouldn't sit around with nothing to do. Take this time to see your friends and family.

 

I think you'll hear this same info from most of the people that respond to your topic.

[Thomas X Forever]

He says he is trying to help us so we wont break up later on.

 

I hate when uneducated choices are made like this. This was idiocy, and lacking logic. If I were you, I'd smash his head into a wall, and tell him if he wants to understand psychology, go research it and take years of classes in it, or else don't say stupid **** like this. You don't break up, so that you don't break up later on. That's so insanely simple minded, and full of lies. If he wanted to work it out, he would go to counseling with you, not take a break from you. Such lies.

 

I agree though you saw each other too much. Smothered = most likely scenario.

 

That aside, I don't ever trust breaks. I asked for a break from my first gf, and we have never seen each other since. My later ex asked for one from me, also never saw her again.

[Exit]

Spending every day together is common at the start of a relationship but eventually this is the type of situation it leads too. Hopefully you both spend a little time apart and return to each other ready to discuss a more reasonable schedule of when to see each other. You don't want the relationship to be your entire life. You both want to be happy, social, interesting people who have time for your other hobbies and interests.

 

Hopefully he comes back, give him some time. If you don't hear from him, you can either decide to go No Contact if that would make you feel better, or you can be the one to make contact and suggest that you come up with a more reasonable amount of time to spend together, and remind him that you never had a problem with him wanting to see his friends and you weren't trying to stop him.